A few years ago, a survey on sexual health of about 12,500 people in 27 countries, including 6,291 men and 6,272 women, showed that more than 50% of both men and women were dissatisfied with the quality of their sex lives.
We are surprised by this data and can’t help but think: where are we going wrong?
The “hard” truth is the key
Which of the three factors do you think is the most important for sex: length, thickness and hardness of the “penis”? Some people must think it is the length, wrong! The answer is actually hardness.
Erection hardness is crucial to sex.
So what kind of hardness is considered a qualified hardness? The widely used clinical self-test erectile hardness scale, also called the erectile hardness score, classifies erectile hardness into 4 levels.
Level 1: the penis is swollen but not hard.
Level 2: The penis is hard but not hard enough for vaginal penetration.
Level 3: the penis is erect enough to penetrate the vagina, but not fully hard.
Level 4: The penis is fully erect and firm.
The test can be done by how you feel. There are also 4 types of food that are often used to compare the above 4 levels of hardness: tofu, peeled banana, banana, and cucumber. level 3 and level 4 are both capable of completing sexual intercourse, but level 4 is the best hardness.
The “Hardness Plan” to increase hardness
First of all, if you suddenly have a “hard-on” within a short period of time, you should consider if there is a problem with any part of your body.
For example, cardiovascular problems are closely related to penile erection. Have you been taking certain medications recently? Or is your work life too strenuous? If you encounter such a situation, it is best to go to the hospital for relevant tests to clarify whether it is caused by other diseases.
Secondly, it is also important to adjust your diet, regular work and rest, and do proper physical exercise. Too much stress and physical fatigue often result in an embarrassing situation where there is no power of mind. Therefore, the body must be recharged. The car needs to be maintained after running for a long time, and people are no exception.
Finally, you can also try to increase the hardness with the help of some drugs, but must be used under the medical advice of a doctor.
For example, what we usually call “Viagra”, the drug is called sildenafil. The drug is called Sildenafil, and similar drugs have emerged one after another, including vardenafil and tadalafil. All three have similar adverse effects, but most of them are mild and transient. The main ones include headache, facial flushing, indigestion, nasal congestion, and visual abnormalities.
However, if you are taking sorbitol nitrate (cardiac pain relief), nitroglycerin, isosorbide nitrate, etc. at this time, it is contraindicated to take them at the same time because they may lead to more significant hypotension. In addition, if you are suffering from hepatitis, liver dysfunction or heart disease, the side effects may be greater, so you should consult your doctor before taking them.
The “big” but also to “live well”
Many people think that the longer the penis is, the easier it is to bring sexual pleasure, the easier it is to have an orgasm. This is not entirely true.
In fact, the source of orgasm comes mainly from the stimulation of the clitoris, not just the vagina. The clitoris is located in front of or above the external female genitalia, and the strength of the stimulation received by the clitoris does not depend on the length of the penis, but rather on the point of contact and hardness.
The nerves of the female vagina are mainly located at the vaginal opening and the outer third of the vagina, about 3 C 4 cm inside the vaginal opening, similar to what is commonly referred to as the “G-spot”. Although the “G-spot” is not an anatomical structure, women are very sensitive to this part of the vagina.
Therefore, by mastering sexual techniques and teasing the sensitive part of the vagina during sex, you can also bring your partner to orgasm with your “short and compact” body.
What about “fast men”?
In ancient times, survival conditions were harsh and primitive humans could be attacked by fierce animals at any time. Therefore, primitive humans did not take long to mate when reproducing, and this habit was written into the DNA of future generations of men.
In modern society, the pace of life is getting faster and faster, and there are not a few “fast shooters” and “fast men”. A large part of these people are caused by psychological factors, such as fear of sudden intrusion during lovemaking; excitement in the heart when excited; not paying attention to sexual skills, hastily finished.
We do not need to deliberately pursue the length of time, but should focus on the feelings of both sides, open communication between each other to help increase the sense of intimacy.
Some tips for reaching orgasm
Many times in the male has been “satisfied” when the woman is still “not enough”. This is mainly because the sexual response process of men and women is not synchronized caused, usually “male fast female slow”.
So in the enjoyment of sex at the same time, should learn some sexual skills, so that men and women are more likely to get sexual harmony.
1, beforehand to set up a warm environment or create a romantic atmosphere, you can make an appointment in advance. It is not advisable to choose to carry out in a hurry or tired.
2, to have enough foreplay to mobilize women’s sexual desire, foreplay time varies from person to person, generally in about 10 – 15 minutes.
You can touch and kiss the sex sensitive areas of the female body to gradually arouse women’s sexual desire, the glandular secretions around the vagina can play a lubricating role at this time, reducing the discomfort of penetration, which is conducive to obtaining orgasm.
3, it is very important to say how you feel before and after sex. If both parties are silent and don’t reveal their feelings to each other, they may never know each other’s preferences.
4, try to change the same old sex process. The same old sex process will make people feel monotonous and boring, perhaps a small change will get unexpected surprises.
For example, change the time of sex, the busy life of nine to five consumes too much energy, sometimes it will be very mechanical to complete the process of sex. In fact, as long as the mood, body and time suitable, any time can be.
In addition, you can also experience a variety of sexual positions and with the help of props, etc.
Conclusion
Love and sex are inseparable, a harmonious sex life requires the joint efforts of both sides, do not blame each other because of disharmony, both sides of each other’s care and consideration, care for each other’s feelings, can strengthen the emotional togetherness, is a good way to enhance the sense of intimacy.
How can couples get harmonious sex, it depends on the practice and feel of both sides to find the most suitable way for each other.