Laughing
When it comes to laughing, many parents simply see it as a sign that their child is active and healthy. Scientists, however, have the insight to see the deeper meaning of laughter, that is, the relationship with intellectual development.
Experts from the University of Washington recently reported that children who love to laugh are more intelligent, and intelligent children laugh at external things earlier than the average child, and more times. This enlightens people: early development of children’s intelligence and a new trick, that is, let children laugh more.
From the baby’s development process, generally 2 to 3 months after birth can be in the parents teasing smile, called the innocent happy response. This is the first step in the infant’s interaction with others, in the psychological development is a leap, the brain development is a promotion, known as “a ray of wisdom of the sun”. Young parents should seize this “ray of light” in time as an opportunity and way of early intellectual development.
The specific practice is to smile more to the baby, or give novel toys, pictures, etc. to stimulate its “innocent happy response”, so that the baby early smile, smile more, grow up with a higher IQ.
However, some babies smile less, only 1 to 2 times per hour, the small face serious, dull expression, is caused by iron deficiency in the body. If you can continuously replenish iron within a week, the serious expression can gradually disappear and be replaced by a happy look. Therefore, the baby’s smiling face is also a “fluorescent screen” to understand its nutritional status.
Crying
What about crying? This behavior, which often disturbs parents, is a mental activity in the development of the baby, as is laughter. Crying is a way for babies to communicate emotionally with their parents or their surroundings before they speak, and it is also beneficial for intellectual development.
Not only that, the crying action expands the baby’s lung capacity and promotes the development of lung tissue, it is also an exercise for the vocal cords, the organ of articulation. At the same time, crying with hands and feet is just like doing gymnastics, which is good for muscle and joint movement.
In addition, crying is not without tears, and tears can flush the eye sockets of salt, sugar, protein and other wastes that need to be excreted, keeping the eye in a clean environment, and the germicidal substances contained therein have the effect of preventing eye disease.
It is easy to understand that children crying for a few days a day is not only harmless, but also very beneficial. There is no need to worry that crying may harm your baby’s health, and it is not wise to forcefully discourage crying by breastfeeding or giving food.
Of course, the crying should not be overly violent or persistent, when encountering this situation, it is appropriate to detect the child’s intentions from the facial expressions and movements of the hands and feet, and to meet, such as hungry to give milk, cold to give warmth, wet diapers in time to change, the child’s crying will stop.
Pranks
If your child scatters pastries on your piano keys or puts a caterpillar on your pillow – what would you do when faced with such mischievous behavior (commonly known as naughty)? Laugh? Reprimand? Or does the child psychologist Thomas Karlsson of Hamburg, Germany, rejoice in this? Karlsson, a child psychologist in Hamburg, Germany, said to you that your child’s intelligence is high. His observations show that children who play pranks are creative and imaginative and have a greater chance of becoming successful than those who follow the rules.
The explanation is that pranks don’t just fall out of the sky, they require brain power to devise a novel solution, and the intensity of the brain power is quite high, no less than or even more than doing homework, which is certainly a catalyst for the child’s intellectual development.
At the same time, pranks increase children’s independence. This is because such behavior is characterized by the child’s ability to transcend the boundaries set by his parents, and the formation of independence requires precisely this transcendence. Otherwise, dependence is difficult to reduce with age.
In short, it is good for the child to play pranks, at least to show that he is starting to use his brain. The success of a prank is undoubtedly an outburst of creativity. Blindly reprimanding or even punishing a child for stifling his enthusiasm to use his brain can hinder his intellectual development. The right thing to do is to let nature take its course and to induce the child’s motivation to engage in more useful activities.
Bickering
Arguments are a common occurrence among young children. What should you do if your child is having a “war of words” with another child?
The first thing you should do is encourage it. Because arguing is a linguistic competition, in order to win you must choose the most fluent, logical, concise and persuasive language to refute the other child, so you need to have a high level of language skills and language skills. The quarrel undoubtedly provides them with an effective opportunity to learn and train language.
At the same time, the quarrel process is always at the climax of thinking activities, can be prompted to gradually learn to analyze, synthesis, deduction, induction and other most basic thinking methods, and constantly improve the agility and logic of thinking, beneficial to brain development and language development.
However, proper guidance is very important. In terms of content, you should choose meaningful topics and try to explore the depth and breadth, and discard those boring or unhealthy topics; in terms of method, you should take science and civilization as the basic principles, teach them to use beautiful and healthy language, cultivate their expression accuracy and fluency, and avoid using foul language, swear words or barbaric behavior.
Finally, it is important to emphasize that the end of the argument should create an opportunity for children to bridge the gap and understand each other in order to enhance unity.
Shyness
Shyness, usually seen as a bad personality, has been found by psychologists at Harvard and Yale universities in the United States: shy people have a naturally more developed nervous system and a higher IQ. In social interactions, shy people become more sensitive and alert due to their strong sense of self, and when they meet a stranger, their heart beats faster, they blush, and they are at a loss for words.
It is not difficult to see in life, shy people are more shrewd, hard thinking, creative and practical spirit, the ability to withstand hardships, setbacks, failures, etc., and thus have certain advantages.
Of course, the negative side of the shy character can not be ignored, such as poor rhetoric, timid retreat from the battle, etc.. But as long as the child is guided to actively engage in social interaction, make friends, the negative side can gradually reduce or disappear, parents do not need to worry about this.
”Destructive” behavior
Give your child a picture book, he will tear page by page, give him a toy, he will play with it for a while will be disassembled or smashed, quite distressing to parents.
In fact, this is a manifestation of the child’s desire to learn. The desire to know is a natural human psychological phenomenon, young children due to intellectual and linguistic expression is limited, so they have to take another way to explore and understand things, which is the reason for their “destruction” behavior.
The psychological motivation for children to destroy objects by dropping, tearing and smashing them is mainly to use their own little hands to unravel the mystery of unfamiliar things or to test their own abilities.
Therefore, parents should try to understand this psychological activity of young children, and take the initiative to help children meet their desire to know. For example, if you buy a new toy, you can take it apart and let your child watch it and explain it at the same time, which not only stimulates your child’s intelligence, but also reduces the occurrence of “vandalism”.