How not to be nervous at meetings?

  Patient: Description (time of onset, main symptoms, hospital visited, etc.): Hello doctor, I feel very nervous when I am in a meeting in my company, even though I am good at many things, I still feel very nervous when I speak in front of many people, sometimes my face will be red and hot, my expression is not natural. Meeting has become a heart barrier, and even many times because of the fear of meeting do not want to do the job. I am usually a very acute person, there are things to be solved immediately, especially work things will never delay, the customer’s evaluation of my very high. The only thing is that I have a psychological fear of meetings. At the same time, I found that my own sister and sister also have the condition of blushing easily, I do not know if this is a genetic? But my father and mother are both very cheerful and talkative people. Is this a disease? How should I alleviate it? I have not been treated for this and would like to know what measures I should take to relieve it.  It is a very common psychological phenomenon to be nervous when speaking in front of many people at a meeting. From your description, this can not be said to be a disease, and there is no genetic problem. But you should usually do things more in the pursuit of perfection. So you do not procrastinate, serious, and customers rate you very high. But when you speak in public, you want to be perfect subconsciously, but there is a lot of randomness in public speaking, unlike work, which is so “controlled”, that is to say, it is very difficult to achieve the level of perfection you want. That’s why you feel nervous.  We suggest that you make adjustments in two areas, one is not so concerned about nervousness in meetings, allow yourself to speak with nervousness, as long as you say it is good. Secondly, learn to interpret your own nervousness – we say that emotions are a signal, which suggests that you are not satisfied with your current way of expression, then go to repeated exercises. The fact is that no one is born without nervousness in meetings, are repeatedly exercised slowly and skillfully, and the first step in exercising yourself is to allow yourself to be nervous, telling yourself that although I am not good at speaking now, but I am consciously exercising, I will become less anxious in the future.