Extramarital affairs are essentially the same as extramarital sex When it comes to extramarital affairs, many people think of sexual relationships. But the fact is that in real life, many people, considering their own conditions, moral constraints, family stability and many other factors, will limit this emotional need outside of marriage to spiritual experiences, and so the phenomenon of spiritual extramarital affairs becomes common. Is a spiritual affair really less harmful than an affair with sexual intercourse? Can this behavior be forgiven and accepted? It is difficult to be interested in only one thing for the rest of your life, and it is difficult to love only one person for the rest of your life, and to have feelings for another person other than your partner is a normal expression of the richness of human emotions and complex interests. In real life, many people will encounter this situation: although their own marriage relationship is very happy, but because of work or life, will be in close contact with someone of the opposite sex. If the two conditions are comparable, each other inevitably have a good feeling. Words of mutual comfort and concern for life meet their emotional needs for a considerable part of the day, and for a variety of reasons, an emotional relationship may develop under moral constraints, but many of them may never have thought of developing a physical relationship. Others are the embodiment of the “Romeo and Juliet effect” in psychology: the more outside interference they receive between people of the opposite sex, the deeper their feelings will be. Some people are not happy in their own lives, so they long for a happy relationship, but due to morality, identity and other constraints, emotional needs are severely bound, so the need for spiritual comfort becomes particularly strong. With or without sexual relations, the essence is the same A person in pain for gender relations, sleepless nights, for the unmarried called hot love, for married people called cheating. Whether it is mental cheating or physical cheating, it is for marriage, a state of yearning for non-marital relationships, so both are essentially the same. Marriage has its own laws. The form of “one-to-one” exclusivity is the minimum requirement, a higher level is the “body and mind”. Many people see the beautiful and spontaneous spiritual affair in movies and dramas and think they can “play” with style. In fact, life and art have a considerable distance, more of us can only love a partner with one heart and soul, in order to be happy. Many people can’t let go of their soulmates of the opposite sex, but they don’t want to betray their families, so the words of relief always linger in their minds: “We’re only mentally cheating, it’s better than physically cheating, right?” ”Now you need to face the problem of ‘not which kind of cheating is better’, but why would you fall into the trend of cheating? Marriage is a fait accompli of the existence of a relationship between the sexes, so why do you love and still hurt?” By carefully examining the state of his marriage, if the counselor still wants to save the marriage, the psychologist will suggest that he slowly reduce the opportunity to meet with his “soulmate” to retain the distance of time and space, so that the feelings slowly fade. You can even try to magnify each other’s shortcomings and be sensible about the relationship. The mental cheater will inevitably neglect to pay attention to his family, so when you want to withdraw, it is the best time to repair the relationship between the couple. The two may wish to spend more time together reminiscing about the joys of being in love and newly married, and more alone activities for the two of them to let married life take over inside. If necessary, seek professional help.