Outside the home is Mr. nice, warm and hot, in the home to command, as cold as ice. From the outside to the inside of this nonsensical “change of face” in many families have different degrees of existence, this psychological phenomenon is a very common internal conflict, although not “disease”, “disease”, but It is very easy to cause family conflicts and hurt the feelings of family members. Modern people with multiple roles should understand the power exerted by the external environment and personality factors on the self, and master the skills of transition between various roles to reduce depression and anxiety, and experience the way of balance inside and outside the body. 1. Venting external pressure on family members is a defense mechanism. 2.Reducing anxiety requires recognizing the different roles outside the home. Conflict within the personality is common in modern people. How can we reduce the resulting anxiety? Modern society gives people a lot of roles if once in you give a lot of emotion and do not get a corresponding return, then often fall into a state of disappointment, depression, anxiety and other adverse emotional state, which in turn will affect interpersonal relationships in the unit and the family. Therefore, this may require people to be flexible in switching between different social roles and to have a clearer sense of role behavior and emotional experiences in different situations. For example, at work, you have to realize that you are not a daughter and cannot ask your supervisor to love and care for you like a father, who only arranges you to do things according to your ability. If you can work according to the role given by social reality, then when you are complained by your supervisor, competition and conflict among colleagues, you will face and solve problems more rationally and will not have serious adverse emotional disorders.