Should older people have “sexual” happiness?
Hello, old people! Because our country has long been subjected to thousands of years of feudal rituals, what “all evil is the first”, from one to the end and the bondage of women’s chastity pagoda, serious depression of people’s normal sexual desire, resulting in extremely conservative, extremely repressed, and even ignorant, deep-rooted, elderly people’s sexual desire requirements are regarded as ” The old is not decent”, old to tumultuous, generally think that sex life is to pass on the offspring, reproduce offspring, people in old age has been full of children and grandchildren, the task is completed, therefore, sex life can also be completed from now on, some of them are boring to the years of monotonous stereotypical sex life, has lost interest, some older people due to various reasons, lost sex partners, long-term solitary, according to the principle of using into Abolition of the principle of retreat, thus losing the ability to sex, some elderly people due to frailty and disease, that sex affects the health and longevity, thus strongly suppressing sex life, more because of the world’s prejudice of the elderly remarriage and remarriage, was strongly opposed by children and social opinion of dissatisfaction, that late in life, the elderly can only have a secret love, these prejudices, that is, the shackles on the neck of the elderly, is the stick to beat the old to come less. To the elderly in the psychological, physical bring serious harm. Since the establishment of the People’s Republic of China in 1949, 62 years, more than 60 years of feudal consciousness in people’s minds should be awake a little, the Chinese advocate filial piety, filial piety is to respect elders, to make elders happy, healthy and long life, if you really want to do filial piety, then please let the elderly a horse, let them go free to fly, enjoy looking for happiness in later life, happy and healthy long life.
Sex is an instinct that comes with birth and death
1, many sexologists believe that sex is an instinct born with death, the elderly not only have sexual requirements and considerable sexual function, researchers have conducted histological examination of the testes of the elderly, found that 70-year-old testes still have spermatogenic function, no significant cell changes. Researchers have conducted a survey on 6200 men aged 80-90 years old and found that 50% of them had sexual interest. It has been reported that a 90-year-old man who took Chinese herbal medicine Huang Jing for a long time in China could still give birth to a son. Some of the above examples can fully illustrate that sex is a kind of human instinct, in general, the elderly are able to maintain considerable sexual function, we would like to make a simple discussion from the psychological as well as physiological point of view.
The sexual consciousness of the elderly is brought by the birth and death together, therefore, from the sexual psychology, no matter how old, sick, how ugly and powerless, but people will never cease to be a creature without sexual desire, they will also be the same as normal people, in the mind there are sexual ideas desire, expectation and need, which is the result of strong conditioned reflexes left in the cerebral cortex in the past, is the sexual fantasy did not disappear According to Japanese information, Japan Yoshizawa Hoon’s survey of 580 people over 60 years of age who requested to participate in the “tea party” and marriage counseling, 100% of both men and women answered that they had sexual desire, and this information was obtained by the researcher by talking with This information is obtained by the researcher through knee-to-knee conversation with the elderly, with great reliability, on the domestic data survey, Cheng Shuangguan, etc. on Nanjing 951 elderly men (cadres and senior intellectuals) sexual function status survey, the results in the 60-64 years old group sexual function of 66.47%, 65-69 years old group accounted for 50.20%, 70-74 years old group accounted for 28%. The results were 66.47% in the 60-64 group, 50.20% in the 65-69 group, 28% in the 70-74 group, 17.65% in the 75-79 group, and 8.5% in the 80-88 group.
In conclusion: both domestic and foreign research materials unanimously show that the elderly still have sexual interest and desire, which is an important feature of the sexual consciousness of the elderly.
Sexual psychology of the elderly: After people enter old age, the functions of the organs are relatively reduced, fertility decreases, and inevitably the male and female sexual functions also change.
2, female sexual function changes have the following performance.
Changes in the external genitalia: clitoral stimulation sensitivity decreases, labia majora atrophy, elasticity becomes poor, the more difficult for congestion to occur fully, vestibular gland, with aging, secretion is delayed, the amount of secretion decreases.
Changes in the internal genitalia.
(1) Vagina, the vaginal wall becomes thinner, folds disappear, pink, vagina becomes shorter and narrower, vaginal expansion ability decreases, lubrication ability decreases during sexual excitement, involuntary expansion of the inner 2/3 of the vagina also decreases, during the continuous period the outer 1/3 of the vagina becomes less engorged and contraction ability decreases, during the orgasm period, the duration is shorter, the number of orgasms occurs less, during the receding period the vagina returns to its original state faster than younger The vagina returns to its original state faster than younger women.
(2) Atrophy of the uterus, with almost no uterine contractions during orgasm.
Changes in non-genital organs.
(1) Breasts, which are often enlarged by engorgement during the arousal period, are almost absent in older women, but nipple erection in older women can still occur easily with effective stimulation.
(2) Sexual flushing rarely occurs in older women.
(3) Urethra and bladder, due to the thin vaginal wall and poor lubrication, after intercourse older women often cause a burning sensation in the urethra during urination, which can last for several hours-2-3 days after intercourse.
(4) rectum, before the age of 40 women can appear in the contraction of the anal sphincter during orgasm, older women can not commonly seen.
3, male sexual function changes have the following manifestations.
Changes in external genitalia.
(1) penis, young men’s penis can quickly erect, in any form of stimulation can be quickly erected within 3-5 seconds, more than 50 years old after the penis erection response time at least doubled, but the elderly control ejaculation time prolonged duration than young people significantly, the period of inactivity is significantly longer than young people, in the ejaculation or even disappear, can not be the second sexual intercourse that night. The muscles around the urethra during orgasm in the elderly occur many times strong rhythmic contracture, and produce pleasure its degree is weakened, the number is reduced, ejaculation is shortened, and even semen leaks from the urethra (weak), and the amount of semen is also significantly reduced, the swelling after ejaculation is faster than in young people, a few seconds to restore the relaxed state.
(2) Scrotum, the scrotal skin is congested and thickened and tense when young people are excited, and the scrotal folds disappear, while the scrotal congestion response is significantly reduced when men over 60 years old are excited, the folds still exist, the skin is not thickened or tense, the testicles are poorly lifted, and the testicular volume increase response is poor.
Non-genital organ changes.
(1) Sexual flushing, which is rarely seen in older people during the sexual continuum.
(2) muscle spasms, non-random muscle muscle spasms (such as carpal foot spasms) rarely occur in older men before or during ejaculation
(3) rectum, young people often appear in the climax of the anal sphincter regular contraction, into old age, the frequency intensity are very small, and the duration of erection strength is poor, fading fast.
4, the elderly sex life strategy
Older people due to psychological and physiological contradictions, coupled with feudal consciousness, especially by the “from one to the end” “not two husbands” and other feudal consciousness, coupled with the opposition of children, in order to solve this contradiction, forced to stop sex, so that the psychological On the physiological long-term sexual repression, depression, depressed mood, lost the happy point of life, long-term must affect health, with the people’s life continues to improve, the average life expectancy continues to improve, the elderly in Shanghai has accounted for more than 20% of the total number of people, has entered the elderly society, the elderly should have a harmonious, beautiful sex life, so that they live a long and healthy life.
In recent years, sex physiological hygienists integrated various aspects of information, and came to a common conclusion, no matter men and women want to get a long and healthy life, must have a happy marriage and family life, including sex is particularly important, especially in the old age is more important, because the whole process of sex is a comprehensive excitement process, this process not only brings physical enjoyment to both men and women, so that people are in a good state of mind, emotionally happy, and can promote hormones. Because of the secretion of sex hormones in the hypothalamus and pituitary gland, so moderate sex stimulates this part, can make good hormone secretion, help keep the brain young, prevent brain aging, and promote blood circulation and the whole body’s metabolism, in addition to sexual activities suitable for the elderly relaxation activities, in sex pelvis, limbs, joints, muscles and spine The pelvis, limbs, joints, muscles and spine are all exercised during sex, and at the same time, heart and lung functions are strengthened due to the accelerated blood circulation. The University of Tokyo, Asahi Nagamasa, believes that if the elderly do not have sex for a long period of time, they will have “sexual atrophy”, and it is important to realize that age is not an obstacle to sexual life, and the general chronic diseases of the elderly should not stop sexual life, do not forget that sexual life is a human instinct. The human instinct, for example, coronary heart disease, such patients are often anxious about the safety of sexual intercourse, so that they dare not have sex, in remission as long as the doctor’s permission, can be completely suitable for sex, but pay attention to some preventive measures, such as: before sexual intercourse ready nitroglycerin tablets, musk heart pills, avoid in full and fatigue when sexual intercourse, sexual intercourse time is not too long, do not overexert In addition, and choose a suitable posture (such as female superior position, side lying position, etc.) to reduce heart pressure and reduce energy consumption, some other diseases such as cancer, arthritis and even disability disease, as long as the doctor allows can be suitable for sex, in short, disease on the sex life of the elderly is not an insurmountable obstacle, this must have a clear understanding.
The characteristics of the sexual function of the elderly.
As the elderly and young people, the elderly sexual function both psychologically and physiologically have declined, so the elderly sexual intercourse, should pay more attention to the ways and means of the problem, specifically the following five points for reference:.
1, pay attention to the caress before sexual intercourse
Because of the thinning of the vaginal walls of older women, the vagina becomes shorter, narrower, vaginal expansion ability decreases, lubrication, and takes a longer time to appear, it goes without saying that these changes in older women bring some difficulties to sexual intercourse, in order to make sexual intercourse life harmonious, the elderly should pay particular attention to the caress before intercourse, in order to promote vaginal lubrication and expansion, do not be too hasty, reckless, due to painful intercourse The two sides can take advantage of the pain of sexual intercourse and return home, so the stronger sexual activities, including love words, both sides of the massage of sensitive points, the time should be long.
2, the use of suitable for the elderly sex position and the appropriate time
As older men erectile function is not as fast and firm as young people, you can change the habit of sex before going to bed, can be changed to sex in the morning before getting up, this time, on the one hand, after a night’s rest, relatively more energetic, on the other hand, this time the body’s sex hormones in the highest concentration in the blood, so erectile function is stronger, so that sexual intercourse is easy to succeed and can last, you can also resort to some help, for example, you can use some For example, you can use some creams or lubricants, such as contraceptive cream, olive oil, paraffin oil, etc. They can strengthen the lubrication of the vagina, and for those who have weak erection, you can add fast-acting Chinese medicines, and for impotent patients, you can also take erection aids to slow down the reflux of the spongy body. For premature ejaculation patients on the one hand, Chinese herbal medicine can be used to regulate, and can try to teach the female partner to use a special physiological massage method of the penis to delay the tendency of rapid ejaculation, this method is called “pinch and squeeze method” that the female partner put the thumb on the penis tether area, index finger and middle finger on the other side of the penis just above and below the coronal edge, steady pinch for 4 seconds, and then Suddenly relax, squeeze direction from front to back, so relax, compression, then relax, then compression for about 10-15 minutes, this method can relieve the ejaculation urgency, foreign reports this method is more than 90% of the efficiency, in addition, the elderly couples during sexual intercourse should pay attention to the posture of comfortable, gentle movements, so as not to cause vaginal injury.
3, to overcome sexual barriers: due to the frailty of the elderly, men and women can sometimes have different degrees of sexual barriers, causing sexual barriers for many reasons, most of them are functional barriers, not irreversible, men mainly in low libido, sexual decline or loss of ability, erectile weakness, premature ejaculation, and impotence, women mainly performance of sexual apathy, vaginal cramps, painful intercourse, etc., once the two sides should be mutual Care, mutual consideration, mutual comfort, do not blame each other, causing psychological shadows, to appropriate psychological conditioning, eliminate the psychological barriers of tension, lift the fear and anxiety, with a variety of methods including food, drugs and other reasonable ways to help each other overcome psychological barriers, the partner’s encouragement and support, for overcoming sexual dysfunction is the best panacea.
4, the introduction of three positions suitable for the elderly sexual intercourse
(1) side-lying position: both men and women are not pressured, less physical exertion, easy to control ejaculation, and men and women second-hand liberation, can cooperate with the massage of the female sensitive points.
(2) male standing female lying position (old man trolley style) is not under pressure, the male side can easily pumping easy to control ejaculation.
(3) female position: the male partner is weak or obese, the female partner active, the male partner passive, less physical exertion, and can extend the ejaculation time.
5, advocate “class intercourse behavior”
The former refers to the need for men and women to contact each other’s body skin, the latter refers to penile erection and ejaculation in men, in women refers to the vestibular gland and vaginal secretions increase during intercourse. For the elderly who cannot have intercourse for the time being, it can be recommended to caress instead of intercourse, the sexual activity of the elderly is the spiritual pillar to maintain the psychological balance in their old age, what they get from it is the deeper dependence of the young people, the young people may not get satisfied without completing penetration, while the elderly may get great satisfaction from hugging, kissing, snuggling and touching each other’s sensitive points, this kind of Satisfaction can make them experience the joy of life, can also make them strengthen emotional communication, improve the degree of intimacy, which is also extremely conducive to each other’s physical and mental health, practice has proved that such couples who can maintain physical intimacy often write a long life chapter of growing old together.
Common sexual health methods
1, nourishing Yin fill essence class.
(1) Cordyceps congee
Cordyceps 5 grams lean pork 50 grams millet 100 grams (Cordyceps is too expensive to promote)
Efficacy: nourish deficiency and benefit essence, nourish the kidneys and moisten the lungs
(2) Chicken with raw earth
One black-bone chicken, 250 grams of raw groundnut, 150 grams of sugar
Effects: Benefit the essence, strengthen the waist and kidney
Preparation: After killing the chicken, remove the hair and internal organs, cut the raw groundnut into fine shreds, mix it with caramelized sugar and put it into the belly of the chicken, sew it up with white thread, put it into an enamel bowl, put it into a steamer and steam it until it is cooked.
(3) Walnut and silkworm pupa soup.
50 grams of peach kernel, 50 grams of silkworm nymphs
Effects: Nourishing the kidney and astringent essence, nourishing the blood
Production: add the right amount of water into the stewing pot, stewed in water for 50 minutes to eat.
(4) Chinese wolfberry porridge.
Chinese wolfberry 50 grams of japonica rice appropriate amount
Effect: Benefit the kidney and nourish Yin, strengthen the spleen and stomach
Production: the above two flavors in black bean sauce and cooked porridge, add five flavor seeds and scallions, etc. to mix and eat.
(5) Snapper with roasted wolfberries.
Effect: Nourishing Yin and kidney
Production: remove the head and viscera of snapper, add wolfberry, chasteberry, cooked together and then eat seasoning, twice a week.
2, kidney aphrodisiac class.
(1) Cistanches and lamb porridge: 15 grams of cistanches, 100 grams of lamb, a little salt, two rolls of white onion, three slices of ginger.
Preparation: wash and slice the lamb Cistanches, decoct the juice of Cistanches in a casserole and remove the dregs, add the lamb and japonica rice and boil them together, add fine salt and white onion to make a thin porridge for winter, and use it for 5-7 days for a course of treatment.
Efficacy: kidney Yang, strengthen the spleen and stomach, laxative.
(2) antler gum porridge: 15-20 grams of antler gum, 100 grams of round-grained rice, 3 slices of ginger, cooked as a thin porridge to take, winter is appropriate to take.
(3) walnut meat porridge: 30 grams of walnut meat, 100 grams of round-grained rice, production: chopped walnut meat and rice with water to stir the juice, cooked and served orally.
Effects: warming the kidneys and fixing the essence, moistening the intestines and nourishing the Qi
(4) leek fried fresh shrimp: 250 grams of leek, 400 grams of fresh shrimp, (shelled) salt, onion, ginger, yellow wine, vegetable oil in appropriate amounts.
Production: leek washed and cut, fresh shrimp shelled and washed, put oil in the pot, first onion stir-fry, then put the shrimp and leek, cooking yellow wine stir-fry is ready.
Effect: Tonic deficiency and strengthen Yang
(5) Deer antler wine: 4 grams of deer antler blood, two pairs of seahorses, 30 grams of Chinese wolfberry. Method: Immerse the above medicine into good white wine sealed for two weeks and take 30-50CC daily before bed.
Efficacy: warming Yang and nourishing Yin
How to choose the oral Chinese medicine on the market.
1, Jisheng Kidney Qi Pill, Annexed Gui Ba Wei Pill, Right Return Pill, main treatment: erectile weakness and impotence caused by kidney yang deficiency, 6 grams twice daily each time.
2. Liu Wei Di Huang Wan, Zuo Gui Wan. Main treatment: impotence caused by yin deficiency, 6 grams twice daily.
3. Zhi Bai Di Huang Wan, Jiaotai Wan, Pai Zi Yang Xin Wan. Main treatment: Yin deficiency and fire or lack of intercourse between heart and mind, causing premature ejaculation or blood sperm, 6 grams twice a day.
4. Gentian and Liver Pill, Dragon Aloe Pill. Indications: Impotence due to damp-heat of liver and gall bladder, twice daily, 6 grams each time.
5. Prosperity Pill, for the treatment of: impotence due to Liver-Qi stagnation, Liver-depression and Blood deficiency, twice daily, 6 grams each time.
6.Jinlock Solid Essence Pill, for the treatment of premature ejaculation due to deficiency of essence, twice a day, 6 grams each time.
7. Qiju Dihuang Pill, for impotence due to deficiency of liver and kidney yin with blurred eyes, blurred vision, night sweating and spermatorrhea, twice daily, 6 grams each time.
8, Wu Zi Yan Zong Wan, main treatment: for spermatorrhea caused by excessive indulgence in sex, also can cure male infertility, twice a day, 6 grams each time.
Qigong sexual regimen.
Qigong health care is mainly through the three tuning (adjusting the heart, adjusting the breath, adjusting the body) three integration of physical and mental self-regulation, to achieve the prevention of disease, cure, delay aging, health and longevity purposes.
Tune the heart: Tune the heart is to induce the psychological effect with benign intention to achieve benign physiological effect, which is the core of qigong.
Adjustment of breath: is breathing, it has a variety of breath adjustment method, especially reverse abdominal breathing with abdominal contraction and anal lifting, anal lifting it can not only forge the anal muscles and can make the perineum and testicular muscle contraction, so that the scrotum testicles constantly stretch up and down, increase local blood circulation, promote the function of the testicles, it is the source of power in qigong.
Adjusting the body: is the movement through reasonable spinal movement, especially the lumbosacral sacral plexus stimulation is the concentration of parasympathetic nerve, erection, ejaculation low-level center, excitement in this area can improve sexual function can at the same time consciously squeeze the testicles rub bucket and other methods of self-massage, so that sexual pleasure, promote the secretion of sex hormones, specific introduction of the following two gong methods.
Sperm production and kidney rejuvenation gong.
From long-term clinical practice and scientific research work, both in improving sexual function and improve sex hormones have obtained good results, first of all, it is a traditional gong method, more than 800 years ago, is an important means of Taoist health, in regulating the heart to the word joy as the head, the idea of youth, especially the return of sexual function, with a smile on the face, throughout the practice process, in the cerebral cortex to establish benign excitement, in regulating the breath The use of reverse abdominal breathing, full abdominal and anal contraction to strengthen the blood supply to the testicles and penis, more characteristic in the regulation of the body, full activity of the lumbosacral region, excitement and active ejaculation and erection center, and through the squeezing and shaking and other massage (self) testicular methods, combined with the regulation of the heart to improve the level of sex hormones (experiments have been confirmed) in the practice of gong not only can get physical and mental pleasure, but also no pain and side effects, and at the same time in the Chinese medicine qigong is also introduced It should be said that especially in the middle-aged and elderly groups is worth promoting the gong method, specific gong method limited to space, not recorded here.
Strong body aphrodisiac massage method.
(1) both hands palm side of the small fissure muscle oblique up and down rubbing bilateral groin 100 times.
(2) two palms rubbed hot left and right palms respectively from the bottom up massage bilateral testicles 100 times.
(3) the left and right hands are crossed from the root hold the penis, upward pull each 7 times, the above method repeated 5 times, preferably every night before bed or in the morning to carry out the role of the above massage and penis pull, on the one hand, can strengthen local blood circulation, especially the blood flow of the cavernous body and easy to erection, at the same time due to euphoria, and improve the level of sex hormones, conducive to improving sexual function.
Old age sex taboos.
(1) contra-love and intercourse: the process of sexual life requires the joint cooperation of both sides, only men and women at the same time to reach the climax of excitement, both physical and emotional to achieve the best happiness and satisfaction, in order to achieve the psychological balance between the two sides, this balance is the perfect sexual satisfaction that people seek, are not suitable for forced sexual intercourse, if one side forced sexual intercourse, not only failed to achieve the pleasure of sexual intercourse and strong antipathy to the other side, will inevitably cause physiological and sexual and emotional satisfaction. Will inevitably cause physical and psychological double pain, over time, can lead to a decline in libido, sexual apathy, lack of orgasm, painful intercourse and other sexual dysfunction.
(2) avoid drunkenness into the room.
A small amount of alcohol is to arouse still reasonable, but avoid drunk into the room, because wine is a central nervous system inhibitors, interference with the sexual response of the nerve can interfere with the metabolism of sex hormones, reducing the level of testosterone in healthy men, a lot of alcohol to make people quickly turn from excitement to inhibition, if the intercourse at this time, it is easy to impotence, and because of drunkenness, sex, rough sex, wildly applied to the diarrhea, only care about their own pleasure, without regard to each other’s needs, and lead to Couple’s sexual life and affect family stability and unity, so excessive drinking into the room, harmful but not beneficial.
(3) avoid having intercourse with disease.
Generally speaking, the acute and chronic disease activity is absolutely prohibited sex, but the recovery period after the acute period or chronic disease activity has entered a stable stage can be considered a moderate sex, especially cardiovascular diseases such as coronary heart disease, hypertension when the room should pay attention to gentle movements, not too excited, because the room when the heartbeat and breathing significantly accelerated, blood pressure to rise, the duration should not be too long, so as not to cause Myocardial infarction and stroke disease.
(4) avoid hunger and fatigue into the room
The gastrointestinal tract is full of blood and the brain and other organs are relatively anemic, including sexual organs, so after meals, sexual intercourse, on the one hand, affect the digestive function, on the other hand, reduce the ability of sexual function, it is not easy to achieve satisfactory results, hunger, physical decline, lack of energy, in the hunger for sex, the effect can be imagined.
Sexual intercourse is a whole body movement, to consume a certain amount of energy, in mental fatigue when sex is difficult to achieve orgasm, and damage to health.
Health care measures for the elderly sexual behavior
1, the room is moderate: emphasize that the elderly sex life should not be excessive nor less than, the two extremes are detrimental to physical and mental health, because frequent sex will break the physiological balance of people, so that the nervous system, endocrine system and system functions are affected, and can appear excessive fatigue, mental trance, dizziness, loss of appetite, sleep disorders and other symptoms, long is detrimental to health, sex varies from person to person, generally speaking, the older the age The older, the longer the interval, in principle, after sex, the next day’s spirit, work and study are not affected, this is a “degree” word, here to mention in passing, for the old husband and wife or less wife and husband, to be less considerate of the old, from the psychological up to coordinate the age of disorders, to avoid damage to health because of excessive.
2, pay attention to sexual hygiene: sexual hygiene mainly includes cleanliness and mental health, personal hygiene is an important condition for a good sex life, before each sexual intercourse to brush your teeth, rinse your mouth, wash your face, take a bath, especially the external genitalia and hand hygiene, so as to avoid genital infections caused by mutual contact during sexual intercourse due to mutual friction, men should pay attention to washing the penis, scrotum, circumcised The long person should turn up the foreskin to reveal the glans and coronal groove, the foreskin dirt, female vulva has many folds, sweat glands, sebaceous glands, vaginal secretions, so before sexual intercourse must clean the external genitalia, mainly the labia and clitoris near the dirt, and then finally clean the anus.
In conclusion: to build a harmonious socialist society in the 21st century, we cannot ignore the elderly who account for more than 10% of our population. As a young generation, we should follow the ancient tradition of our country and respect our elders with the word filial piety in the forefront, that is, to make the elderly live a happy and harmonious life in their old age, abandoning worldly prejudices. The old people should be encouraged to find their partners for various reasons so that they can go back to their happy old age.
For the elderly, in order to live a happy life in their old age, they should abandon their depression and loneliness and socially incorrect opinions, and actively pursue their other half, so that they can enjoy their old age, and have a long and happy life, and the coordination and tacit understanding of the two generations, and the natural state of water and milk, and the happiness and harmony of the elderly, will have a significant impact on the formation of a harmonious society in the 21st century.