Recently, a set of “life pressure map” was enthusiastically surrounded by netizens. The “pressure two generations” cartoon uploaded by “angry Wen Zi”, a total of eight, respectively, to describe the pressure to suffer in life. 1-5 years old: drinking milk powder pressure, domestic milk powder is not safe, foreign milk powder and too expensive; 6-10 years old: cramming classes pressure, Saturday Aoji English, Sunday qinqi calligraphy. Saturday Aoji English, Sunday piano, chess, calligraphy and painting.
10-20 years old, the pressure of university entrance exams, thousands of troops an examination for life, can not afford to lose ah; 20-25 years old, the pressure of finding a job, must be famous universities two years of work experience, the unemployed can not afford; 25-30 years old, the pressure of doing business, work day and night body is getting worse, such a business can not afford to do; 35-50 years old, the pressure of raising the whole family, children, wives and children, houses, cars and tickets. Really can not afford to raise; 50-70 years old, the pressure of being old;
70 years old a death, “hanging” pressure is also big ah, no money can not afford to buy a cemetery, ashes only scattered to the sea …… this group of pictures is a vivid image of the pressure faced by various age groups in modern society, netizens called “Can not afford ah ……”
People from birth until death, at every stage, even every day will face different pressure, pressure is part of life. Even after death there is still pressure – if there is still perception after death, because the living will still make judgments about the merits of the dead. Stress is also a necessary part of a complete social being, it provides the necessary motivation for human behavior, and it is the presence of these motivational factors that drives humans forward while relieving one stress after another; it is hard to imagine what a completely stress-free person and society would be like.
On a psychological level, the
First, the source of human stress is related to human needs, in different people, different stages of life, people will have different needs. According to the American psychologist Maslow’s humanistic theory, human needs can be divided into physiological (survival) needs, security needs, the need for belonging and love, the need for respect, the need for self-actualization, from this point of view, life is a process of constantly making their needs met and eventually achieve self-actualization. Before the needs are satisfied, these needs constitute stress.
Secondly, whether these needs are satisfied or not is largely related to the individual’s cognitive evaluation system. The individual’s cognitive evaluation system is largely influenced by the surrounding people and social cognition, especially in this information age.
For example, in the 1980s, when a young person in the city got married, he or she would be satisfied if he or she could have his or her own independent dormitory as a new house, whereas nowadays, if a young person in the city gets married and does not have his or her own set of housing yet, he or she will feel as if his or her basic needs have not been solved, thus generating great stress. Thus, cognitive evaluation is the second cause of stress.
Therefore, the stress of an individual comes mainly from his or her own needs, but also from the cognitive and value orientations of others and even the whole human society.
1.For different stages of stress burden, can you give different suggestions for dealing with stress at each stage according to the age environment you are in at that time?
First of all, no matter what age one is in, individuals should recognize what their real needs are and understand what they really need, which is very important from a mental health perspective and is a remarkable achievement.
Secondly, no matter what social environment they are in, individuals should maintain their independent selves and establish and maintain a reasonable and healthy personal cognitive evaluation system instead of following the clouds. Unfortunately, at this stage in China, the vast majority of people are lacking in these two aspects, which leads to a very low sense of well-being for contemporary Chinese people who are materially better off than at any time in the past.
For individuals in their childhood and adolescence, because they have not yet formed their own complete and independent values and cognitive evaluation system, their pressure also comes more from their parents and teachers. If parents and teachers do not understand the real needs of children and lack independent and healthy personal cognitive evaluation system, they will give children some excessive pressure, which will affect their physical and mental health. And when these children become adults, their personal cognitive evaluation system may be even more unhealthy, bringing greater potential risks to mental health.
1-5 years old: drinking milk powder is stressful, domestic milk powder is not safe, and foreign milk powder is too expensive; – how did the children live before the invention of milk powder?
6-10 years old: cramming classes are stressful, Saturday OU English, Sunday piano, chess, calligraphy and painting; – which parents ask their children to do this, first let him learn all these by himself.
10-20 years old, the pressure of university entrance exams, thousands of troops a test to determine life, can not afford to lose ah; – the university entrance exams are good, not you can go to the boss ah, many college students, graduate students, doctoral students may be the boss of an elementary school student it.
20-25 years old, the pressure to find a job, must be a famous university two years of work experience, unemployed people can not afford to hurt; – if you do not pick, you can certainly find a job, really can not find, you can give yourself as a boss.
25-30 years old, dry business pressure, work day and night, the body is getting worse, so the business can not afford to do; – career is important, but the career is only part of life, not to mention, there will always be only one first place, the other are the second, third place… …
35-50 years old, the pressure of raising the whole family, children, wives and old children, houses, cars and tickets, really can not afford to raise; – how much money, how big things to do. Can not afford to buy a big house, you can buy a small house; can not afford to buy a car, you can buy a bike.
50-70 years old, the pressure of being gnawed at; – children and grandchildren have their own children’s blessings, to live their own happy old age is also indirectly help children.
70 years old a death, “hanging” pressure is also big ah, no money can not afford to buy a cemetery, ashes only scattered to the sea …… – death is a necessary process in life, but also No matter where you return to, you still belong to nature, you want to return to outer space, it is estimated that the majority of people can not afford.
2. Although we live in a “high-pressure” society, how do we deal with the relationship between stress and life (work) for individuals?
Appropriate stress is a source of motivation for human behavior, but stress of excessive intensity and duration can seriously affect an individual’s physical and mental health, and even lead to some psychological problems and diseases.
In terms of stress management
The first thing is to have a relatively independent self, not to follow the clouds and try not to follow the crowd blindly.
Secondly, we should maintain a reasonable and healthy personal cognitive evaluation system, properly adjust our values, outlook on life and career, and figure out that the value of life lies in self-fulfillment and maximizing our potential, rather than everyone competing to be a leader, number one, or even president —, career is only a part of life, and should not be taken as the whole of life.
Third, everyone is facing a variety of pressure, individuals can learn some scientific methods of stress management, in order to carry out scientific management of the pressure they face, to reduce the negative impact of pressure on individuals to a minimum.
Fourth, you can reduce the pressure of the mind through some physical activities, such as physical exercise, excursions, regular and irregular travel, etc., the pressure will be released through strenuous or relaxing physical activities, so as to play a role in relieving stress.
Fifth, but also good use of their social support system resources, such as confiding in friends, small gatherings with friends and relatives, etc., will be their own stress confided in.
Sixth, you can also learn some relaxation methods, such as muscle relaxation, intentional relaxation, meditation and some of our traditional fitness techniques, can also be a good relaxation of the body and mind.
If through their own adjustments and efforts still can not reach relaxation, you need to seek professional help, long-term, chronic stress is a major killer of physical and mental health, not only easily lead to sleep disorders, anxiety disorders, depression, adaptation disorders and some other psychological or mental disorders, and even lead to some psychosomatic diseases such as coronary heart disease, hypertension, peptic ulcers, etc., a serious threat to the physical and mental health of individuals.
3.Is stress only about the individual? Is it related to family or even society?
As a social person, the formation of an individual’s cognitive evaluation system is largely determined by the social environment in which he/she grows up and lives, firstly, the family, secondly, the more closely connected community environment, and finally, the whole society.
On the other hand, the cognition and atmosphere of the whole society is integrated by the values of countless individuals, and each person plays a combined role in the cognition and values of the whole society, and countless trickling streams eventually merge into the ocean of human society. Of course, as part of the modern information society, the behavior of the government, the media and some public figures can play a relatively large positive or negative role in guiding the whole society.