Traditional Chinese medicine considers the mind and body to be interactive, and this traditional yet dialectical view is still a good explanation for many of our physical and mental problems today. For example, in sexual life, many physical manifestations are the refraction of a psychological concept in the body, among which sexual fear is particularly prominent. Sexual life is a need for a normal life between husband and wife, and a harmonious sexual life can bring a more satisfying marriage. However, many men due to the existence of one or more psychological barriers, so that the sexual life is not coordinated, and even affect the happiness of the family. The most common of these is sexual fear. Sexual fear is a psychosexual disorder in which one is afraid or even terrified of normal sexual life. Usually when the patient faces and carries out sexual intercourse, he or she will have strong such fear, showing strong physical reactions such as panic, palpitations, sweating all over the body. The main psychological factors that produce sexual fear in men include the following: 1. Fear of the size of the sexual organ. Fear that their sexual organs are not big enough, and thus feel shy, guilty or even extremely inferior. And usually, the penis erection between 10 cm to 20 cm are normal, relatively short, long penis, during sex, as long as pay attention to the sexual position, are not detrimental to the sexual life of both parties. 2, fear of erection is not strong enough. Many men believe that only when erection is firm enough to be a symbol of masculinity, but also the performance of conquering women. For this reason may even be a lot with the help of drugs, regardless of their actual situation. The actual fact is that the erectile function is not only affected by the physiological state, the environment, mood, stress and other objective factors will have a role in the erection, need to be objective and calm treatment. 3, afraid of their lovemaking time is not long enough. Some men, think that the longer the time, the higher the quality of lovemaking. It will be very worried about their lovemaking time is not long enough. However, the more you worry, the more it will affect your state, the worse the state is more worried, forming a vicious circle. 4, fear that the partner can not reach orgasm or fake orgasm. Many men believe that only let each other reach orgasm, in order to reflect the high degree of understanding and perfection of the two people in sexual life. If you fail to let your partner to orgasm, especially if the partner faked orgasm, is their own sexual ability is not strong enough, but also therefore the psychology of self-blame and inferiority complex. All these psychological factors are important causes of fear in sex and thus affect the harmonious sex life. Understand the causes of sexual fear and analyze the causes in order to better treat them. If there are obvious symptoms (signs) may try Chinese medicine treatment, and at the same time with psychological guidance; if the signs are not obvious, can be carried out through dietary therapy to supplement the heart and kidneys, to sparse the liver Qi products. Of course, the heart disease also needs heart medicine, it is important to actively adjust the psychological state, the establishment of a healthy and scientific concept of sexual life, and actively seek the support and encouragement of the spouse. Sexual life is supposed to be done by both sides, if the husband is found to have sexual fear of problems, both sides need to understand and learn about sex, to solve together, rather than blame each other and indifference. First of all, both sides need to try to communicate and face the problem honestly, to see if they can cooperate and change through both sides to achieve a more tacit sexual life. Secondly, understand and respect the uniqueness and differences of individuals, not to use a simple single standard to measure whether the sexual life is perfect, but to focus on their own inner real experience, not to over sexual ability and male excellence or not completely associated. In addition, the wife’s appropriate encouragement and gentle attitude towards her husband is also a good medicine to ease the fear. Finally, you can also try some ways to soothe the fear and shift the concept, such as listening to music, creating a comfortable and romantic environment, etc. are good ways. In short, whether it is a metaphysical or physical relationship between the sexes, a relationship of mutual respect, continuous learning and progress, mutual understanding and good communication is an important element of a harmonious life.