The mother-child alliance sometimes serves to compensate for the functioning of the family when the husband has not yet grown up. According to family pathology, the “mother-child alliance” makes the child a projected ‘container’ for the couple’s personality conflict; the couple unconsciously transfers the problems of the marriage to the child, and the child lives as a ‘prop’ who suffers for the marriage. ‘. As the mother’s personality, emotions have a strong identification and internalization effect on the child in the alliance, the child’s self-development is suppressed, and this suppression continues into adolescence and is violently released. Similarly, the excessive closeness of the mother delays the development of the boy’s gender identity and sexuality, and many boys are imprinted with the “Oedipus Complex” (Oedipus) that they cannot get rid of in any way. Recognizing the mother-child alliance and clinical psychotherapy may be two different things, and psychotherapists do not look at the “mother-child alliance” as a simple logical relationship. Generally, we first accept that the alliance is a compensatory state of the family relationship, and that the “mother-child alliance” may be an effective mechanism for balancing within the family until a new equilibrium is established. By entering the family with this perspective, the psychiatrist is better able to maintain a neutral position and a broader perspective. We may be tempted to bypass the cause and effect of what the family members give us, or to act as educators or mediators of the relationship. We reduce anxiety within the family by maintaining a high level of respect and agreement with what the family presents to us, and by collaborating with the family to find multiple possibilities for change going forward. We do not discuss why the family is the way it is, or why the child is having this or that problem; rather, we readily admit that we do not know the cause of the problem (playing dumb). We are willing to discuss with the family how this “mother-child alliance” is maintained, and what each member needs to do to make the “alliance” seem less bad if the family chooses not to change the status quo. If the family chooses to change, how to build a new relationship and how to maintain the sustainability of the change. In therapy, the family therapist is very willing to sit on the same bench as the family. If one is used to sitting across from the family and letting the family throw all their troubles and anger at them, then one will not be able to get away with it.