A wife who likes to complain that her husband is soft-boned doesn’t realize that she happens to be the reason why his bones are getting softer and softer. The mother plays a far greater role than the father in the early mental development of the child. Think of the gradual separation of the child from the body and arms of the mother, and you will be convinced that there is nothing wrong with such a view. The relationship with the mother determines whether almost everyone has enough security, intimacy, happiness and growth momentum within him. The father, however, is an important companion and leader in his initial growth and self-identity. When psychologists deal with adults and children suffering from neurotic conflicts (fear, depression, anxiety, etc.) and behavioral disorders, they need to make a careful analysis of the mother-son or mother-daughter relationship in early life, and we often find a very strict and correct and responsible mother or a father with a similarly strict and careful mother. When dealing with such a family, it is sometimes more difficult than ever to convince the mother to give the child the freedom to make mistakes, to tell “lies” and to do “bad things”. Because such a mother must be a very reasonable person, always on the right side of things, do people do diligently, as a mother as a wife is also very serious. When you talk to them, you often feel a bit short of breath and a bit unreasonable. As early as in the 1950s, psychiatrists engaged in family therapy put forward the psychological concept of “marital tilt”, which holds that one parent in a family has a tendency to dominate the family in a destructive way, while the other parent appears to be dependent and weak, and is submissive to him or her. The child grows up with this skewed relationship as normal and loses the ability to become an equal, either dependent or dominant.