The private chatting is very eloquent, once the public speaking but blushing, stammering, this is a lot of people have encountered embarrassment. Recently, a survey conducted by Life Times in conjunction with Sina.com Health Channel showed that more than 50% of the 2854 participants were “very nervous and scared every time they spoke in public”, 41.3% said they were “nervous on some occasions” and only 0.7% were “never nervous”. 41.3 percent said they were “nervous on some occasions” and only 0.7 percent were “never nervous”. When answering the question “Why are you nervous and scared?”, 27.1% of the respondents said “I’ve been like this since I was a child, and I can’t tell why”, while 25.3% said “I’m afraid I’ll say the wrong thing and be embarrassed. “The number of people who are nervous when they see so many people is 23.0%, and 20.7% feel that “their psychological quality is too poor”. In this regard, Xi Yingjun introduced to the “Life Times” reporter, in fact, about 10% of people around us are suffering from “social phobia”, but this disease does not attract sufficient attention. Social phobia is a persistent and intense fear of one or more interpersonal situations and avoidance behavior, patients are too demanding of their own performance in front of people, especially concerned about the views of others on their own, easy to nervousness, fear, anxiety, but also show symptoms such as dry mouth, sweating, shortness of breath, rapid heartbeat, cold hands and feet. When the participants chose self-expression, 61.6% of them felt logically confused, 26.1% looked down and did not dare to look at the audience, 21.4% had sweaty palms, and 20.9% stuttered. In the survey, 95.9% of the people want to have a good eloquence. Sai Yingjun believes that it is important to accept oneself openly and not to deliberately ask oneself to accomplish the goals that one cannot at present. Perhaps through this self-emotional cognitive adjustment, the level of tension and anxiety will be reduced, which will help one’s attention to focus on what one wants to do more.