Recently, I happened to read an article “Reminders of Happiness” and loved it. From childhood to adulthood, we all live in reminders and grow up in reminders. Reminders from our parents, reminders from our friends, reminders from ourselves. These reminders are always “think of danger” or “worry about the sky”. While they have some merit, they take away our ability to feel joy and happiness in the moment and make it easy to focus on the crisis. If we can remind ourselves to focus on the crisis, why can’t we remind ourselves to focus on happiness? Of course, I am not saying that we should stop the habit of reminding ourselves to pay attention to crises, but I hope that we should also learn to remind ourselves to pay attention to the happiness that we are having, and be a person who can feel happiness at all times but is alert and smart. When I woke up early this morning and folded the blanket, I heard my husband muttering, “Oh, there’s water in my wife’s cup, so I don’t have to pour cold boiling water.” I was puzzled so I asked him why he said that? He explained, “To make sure my wife has cold boiling water in her cup, so that when I boil boiling water, you mix it into the cup and have warm water to drink.” Looking back on this detail now, his thoughtfulness was very caring and made me feel very warm, I was really happy! I used to be in a bit of a bad mood when I saw the room in a mess (hey, here’s half the credit for Mr.). But think about it another way: why do I have to be a perfectionist and have to put my energy into cleaning the house to make it spotless? It’s just as good to let the house be natural and have more energy to read a book! In fact, there is no right or wrong between us, just different choices. After understanding him in this way, I feel more comfortable, no longer sulking, and will no longer focus on what he can not do, but began to focus on what he can do, and will be able to enjoy the happiness he gives me. Once I went out in a hurry, and when I got downstairs, I remembered that I had left my bike at the office yesterday. Every day, my husband used to ride his bike to work with me, but today I had to walk. On the way, I took the shortcut with Mao Mao, holding my bag in one hand and holding me in the other, I jogged to keep up. Along the way we joked and laughed and soon arrived at the unit. I cherish such a relaxing walk to work together, and I feel happier because of his company! The above is a reflection of what I wrote three years ago. Looking back now, I’m really ashamed because three years have passed, but I forgot to remind myself often how happy I am, and often magnified the pressure, causing many mistakes. This was at the end of last year, I panicked in front of the multiple pressures of renovation, buying a car, and buying social security for my parents, and rushed to make everything perfect at once, bringing the fine tradition of reminding of crises into full play, resulting in sleepless nights, daily whining, and even more pressure being imposed on my husband. At that time, I lived in worry every day, reminding myself how much I lacked money and ability, but forgot to remind myself of the health I had, the love and affection I had. At that time, Mr. under my pressure, anxious, and concealed from me to speculate in the stock market lost a lot of money, which made the original in front of the plan stretched us to become more strapped. In retrospect, it’s really ridiculous to lose so much because of high pressure! In fact, the things we need to face in life, we can take one step at a time. Money and ability can be accumulated, as long as we cherish our happiness, work hard and move forward steadily, everything will be there. Now, I tell myself that everything goes with the flow and cherish the moment! My teacher said that it takes a lot of effort to consolidate even a new behavior that appears. Since the habit of reminding attention to crisis is already ingrained, there is no need to expend effort. On the contrary, reminding to pay attention to happiness is a laborious task. So I want to remind myself several times a day how happy I am in order to turn it into a habit. Life is good, I have good health, I have a reformed and more loving and cherishing lover, I have the concern of my friends and family, I have a kind and loving family, I now feel good in my life every day, it’s really good. I tell myself to stop worrying about the future. Live each day to the fullest, you are the best! Families of distant minds, let’s start reminding ourselves of happiness now! The above content belongs to the science lecture, not rigorous enough to speak to the group, there are inappropriate points you can advise!