In order to make their children talented, parents often invest more in early education, memorizing poems, learning foreign languages, and learning literacy ……. Every parent wants their child to be a genius. However, while caring for the growth needs of their children, parents must not forget the psychological growth needs of their children. To meet the psychological growth needs of the child, parental love is precisely the best early education. Just as a baby cannot survive without parental feeding, without loving education, a baby’s psychological growth will be left with regrets. With the first cry of a baby, a new life is born. Parents are happy to put all the knowledge they have learned about parenting to good use, such as breastfeeding and adding supplementary foods rationally. Of course, parents also do not neglect intellectual development, such as music, art, dance, toys and so on. As the baby grows up day by day, parents care more and more delicate, always hope that the child is smart, cute and healthy, so a variety of educational, height-enhancing products are increasingly popular among parents. In fact, the physical development of infants is determined by their own physical or genetic factors, as well as mental development. Love is to respect this law of development and give infants enough room for development. The child’s psychological development is also growing A one-year-old child is barely capable of tolerating frustration and prolonged separation from its parents, and will cry out or be emotionally indifferent if it suffers a setback because it cannot psychologically separate itself properly from its mother’s body. On the contrary, if the child is 3 years old, such separation is tolerated and the tension associated with frustration is tolerated, at least for a short period of time, without excessive anxiety. On the other hand, if a one-year-old child is separated from his or her mother without significant anxiety, it reveals that this infant may have a failed relationship with the mother. Similarly, if a 3-year-old child is unable to separate from his mother for a sustained period of time, he is at least failing at controlling anxiety tension. Similarly, there is an even greater difference between a 6-year-old compared to a 16-year-old child. Each stage of a child’s development has different psychological growth needs. A loving mother should be there for her infant, respecting and appropriately meeting the child’s needs. For example, an infant under one year of age needs the mother’s full attention, a smiling face every day to make the child feel safe, and at three years of age, the child needs to be trained to separate appropriately from the mother and understand that the mother has other things to attend to. Some children cannot tolerate this separation, then the mother must respect this fact and slowly allow the child to learn to separate from herself. Don’t force it to match the book Some mothers also read various books carefully to know how their children should behave at different stages, and if their children fail to behave in a step-by-step manner, they get anxious and pressure their children in other ways. Parents suffer, children suffer. Is a child who meets the needs of adults a good child? Is the opposite a bad child? Do parents love their children or do they love themselves? We do not deny the love of parents under the sky, but ask yourself whether our love is really beneficial to the psychological development of children. 6-year-old children go to school, like to play, do not know how to study, parents put a lot of pressure on children, do not allow them to play. But the 6-year-old child is in a state of mind that only knows how to play and does not know how to learn, a forced child, it is better to meet his need to play first, if the forced approach does not work, it is better not to use. Parents may wish to think differently, from the child’s point of view to think about how to play and learn. In fact, this is also a kind of acceptance, tolerance attitude. Listening and affirmation is the premise of communication Love is unconditional acceptance, whether he does well or not, he is the only child we do parents. Professor Howard Chevron Dana of Harvard University has proposed a brand new view, namely the theory of multiple intelligences. He believes that human intelligence should include seven aspects: musical intelligence, motor intelligence, mathematical and logical intelligence, linguistic intelligence, spatial intelligence, interpersonal intelligence, and self-awareness intelligence. Each intelligence is based on the physiological function of the brain and has its biological basis. In each person, these 7 aspects of intelligence constitute different combinations, showing the diversity of human abilities. Gardner’s theory gives us two insights. First, a person’s intelligence is a reflection of the functional state of the whole brain, not just an accumulation of knowledge as some parents believe; second, each child’s different nature determines that its future development path is not exactly the same, and its combination of intelligences is never just one pattern. Therefore, loving parents will never force their children to develop according to their parents’ imagination, but rather allow them to fully express their interests and abilities and provide the appropriate space for development. Everyone desires the love and affirmation of others, especially the important people in their lives, and this usually includes parents, teachers and mentors. The more love and affirmation an individual receives as he or she grows as a person, the less personality conflict he or she will have and the more self-confidence he or she will have. If a person grows up with a severe lack of maternal love and without the same warmth and care from other close people, the person will develop a “thirst to be loved”. At the same time, due to the lack of love, it will be difficult for him to learn positive social interaction. Therefore, it is important for parents to understand the inner needs of their children from an early age and to listen to them. If parents are only concerned with their own emotional needs, but not with the psychological needs of their children, children will feel very lonely. Parents who listen carefully to their children and answer their children’s questions can deepen the parent-child relationship and give them a sense of security. Parents should also pay attention to the content of the child’s speech and express parental understanding and sympathy, and not arbitrarily express negative attitudes toward the child’s feelings or opinions. It is very important to give your child a fair evaluation. Some parents like to say this – “You always forget ……” In fact, all children want their parents not to always talk about shortcomings, which It can bruise their self-esteem. If a child does have to be criticized, it should be done privately and quietly. Parents need to put effort into understanding their children’s need for love, respect, and security so that they can effectively communicate with them about their thoughts, feelings, and life experiences.