Children are not yet imbued with social culture, are more similar as natural, pure human beings, and each child contains the characteristics and psychological needs of all children – which is why we believe in the power of education. We do too many anti-natural things in parenting now. Some of the negative consequences of these things can be seen quickly and are easily terminated; others are so insidious that they take years or even decades to become apparent. Talking about speech: Don’t let training replace natural development. Children who are starting to speak generally have a lisp, especially when they can’t pronounce the tip of the tongue, such as saying “river” as “river cow”, which is very normal. Parents do not care, the child grows up slowly will be good. This is like just learning to walk always stumble, without any training for the child, to the child grows up naturally to walk steadily. If parents see this normal phenomenon as abnormal and rush to train their children, it is likely to hinder the child’s language development. One parent used a small rice spoon to adjust the child’s tongue and train the child’s pronunciation every day in order to make her one-and-a-half-year-old child’s speech clear. The child’s abnormal performance scared her and she thought the child suddenly had “autism”. Fortunately, the child’s grandmother decided that the spoon was the cause of the problem and stopped her training in time to stop her from pestering the child on speaking. When my daughter Yuan Yuan was 3 years old, a colleague whose child was in middle school was surprised to hear that she could not pronounce tongue sounds, such as “sixty-six” as “wohi wo”, and solemnly suggested that I take my child to the hospital to see if there was a problem with her oral structure. As a mother, I know my own child and even like the way Yuan Yuan pronounces words, I feel very cute, so I laughed at my colleague’s suggestion. I don’t remember when Yuan Yuan stopped saying “six” as “arg”, just as I don’t remember when she grew from a chubby toddler to a young girl with long limbs. As people become more and more detached from childhood, the normal performance of children is seen as a “problem” and all kinds of “training” are created: sensory training, cry immunity training, bowel training, crawling training, attention training, grip training …… parents’ overall literacy level is getting higher and higher, but raising children is becoming more and more unnatural and crude and ignorant. How many people are controlling their children in the name of love, using anti-natural means, disrupting their normal development, and even forcing them to regress. Talking about competition: Don’t let down nature’s careful arrangement It has been our habit to revere competition, and many people believe that a sense of competition should be cultivated from a young age. In reality this goes against the natural laws of child development. Childhood is a very unique age with its own unique tasks. The normal process of a child’s growth into an adult is a journey from “small animal” to “human” evolution, that is, “natural human” to “social human The history of the transition from “natural man” to “social man”. A newborn baby is as ignorant as a newborn calf, physically more tender than a calf, and takes much longer to move from childhood to adulthood than a calf. This is exactly the time nature leaves enough to build up energy for every kind of life with great potential. The growth of a child also requires longer years and a strict, insurmountable sequence. The task of childhood is not to stretch outward, but to accumulate inward. A person with strong inner strength will be able to control himself well, and only in the future will he be able to handle his relationship with the world and gain initiative in life affairs – this is the normal order and logic of developing competitiveness. If a child is rushed into competition from an early age, cultivating his so-called sense of competition is actually distracting from the accumulation of the child’s internal self-growth, and the anxiety brought about by competition will in turn consume more of the child’s energy. Children who are forced into a competitive orbit are more likely to experience feelings of powerlessness, inferiority and psychological imbalance – competition that begins in childhood rarely has a winner. When faced with a small but potentially weak child, we should follow nature’s plan and allow him to build and grow within himself in a relaxed environment. If we have to cultivate something, we should cultivate good character. Each good character can catalyze the ability and courage to face the world and its difficulties, and good character itself is competitive. Talking about rules: perhaps the instinct of love and trust are more important Childhood is a special time, a world of pure beauty and originality for every child, with enigmatic potential and countless possibilities for development, and the task of education is to develop this potential and to try to protect the well-being of the individual, which requires a family life with fewer constraints. A child whose initial exposure to the world does not allow him to be relaxed and at ease, but rather cautious, is thrown into an energetic war of attrition. The child is overwhelmed and overwhelmed by the constraints and limitations of his environment, which by nature wants him to expand himself and explore the world, and the positive energy of his growth is unjustifiably depleted and his psychological order is disturbed. A mother with a good education has always had “high standards and strict requirements” for her children. For example, after the age of 2, try not to hold the child, not to spoil the child’s pettiness; change of underwear must be washed on the same day, never delayed until the next day …… This child is 5 years old, excellent intelligence, indeed developed a lot of “good habits”, but also showed increasingly This child, at the age of 5, is intellectually brilliant and has indeed developed many “good habits”, but is also showing increasing paranoia and will not accept anything that is slightly different or not in her common sense. The mother, who was well educated and socially active, and who valued education, had suppressed her primal instincts. When faced with her child, she was slow to feel, lacking both maternal intuition and the thoughtfulness and cultivation of an evolved civilization, and she rigidly applied some specious things, taking “making rules” as education, putting the cart before the horse. In fact, sometimes the most beautiful education is as simple as listening to the instinct of love within oneself. Education is also a way of experiencing the energy of another natural person with the most natural heart, trusting that the spontaneous choices of a person, especially a child, will be good. Mistrust of human nature is often the root of “rule making”, which aims to “fix” the child. If we can trust our children naturally and give them more “spiritual indulgence”, they will grow stronger and learn more wisdom in life. Nature is our eternal teacher, she makes us simple and relieves our anxiety. This is especially true in education. When you are at a loss for what to do, think about what nature tells us and the answer may come.