Fear of being deprived of parental love makes the oldest prone to psychological problems. There is a term in psychology called “sibling rivalry”, which refers to the delicate relationship between siblings. The key is for parents to properly balance the relationship between two or more children. The reason why the oldest child in a family with two children is prone to psychological problems? Psychologists analyze that the reason is that most families nowadays are only children, surrounded by the “4+2” from birth, used to all people centered on themselves, lacking the habit and ability to share. If parents put too much energy into the second child and neglect to care for the oldest, the oldest will feel abandoned, and they will put the blame on their younger siblings for their parents no longer loving them. Younger children are not able to express this feeling of “loss of favor” in words, so it will show up in their behavior. For example, they may become temperamental, unreasonable, crying or clinging to their mothers; some children may exhibit regressive behaviors, i.e., revert to their childhood behaviors, such as wetting the bed when they had stopped, or asking to drink milk from a bottle. Secondly, the child may also develop some problematic behaviors to attract the attention of adults, such as deliberately making trouble or secretly scolding younger siblings when the parents are not paying attention. Common manifestations: 1. Rebellion, doing the wrong thing to attract the attention of other hot people. Because everyone’s attention is on the second baby, the first baby will be very uncomfortable, she may become rebellious, doing all kinds of wrong things to attract the attention of adults, so that everyone spends effort to control her. 2, crying, to vent their frustration. Younger older babies are likely to cry and get annoyed when things go wrong, to show their insecurities. 3, become very paranoid about their own things. After having a younger brother, a lot of things have to be shared with his brother, and all older babies may become paranoid about what they have and don’t like to share their things with others to play with. 4. It is possible to be horribly well-behaved. Some introverted big treasure may become more well behaved to win the praise of others, although this is excellent for adults, but this is also not normal a performance, the child in front of mom and dad should be not need to hide. 5, it is possible to go to bully the second. Some children may go to pinch their younger siblings, or ravage their siblings’ faces to express their dissatisfaction.