”If you were in America you would have been shot by your husband”, this threatening text message from Li Yang, the founder of Crazy English, was recently exposed by his wife, once again drawing the attention of many netizens to domestic violence. In fact, there is no winner in domestic violence, and both parties involved are people who need psychological help. There are different degrees of domestic violence, and the solutions are not the same. Blue warning: An Jiahe type regret not to change the scene playback: “do not talk to strangers” in the An Jiahe, after the implementation of domestic violence crying, regret, but also to communicate with their partners, and even domestic violence to the partner after the implementation of sugar-coated explosive to express repentance, but often Zhao Benshan skit said “committed and then change, change and then commit, a thousand hammering “. Expert Analysis: For the first domestic violence, the wife must show their attitude and position, serious warning, such as the next time, determined to divorce; if you start to let this matter rush by, the frequency and severity of the future will increase, tolerance and forbearance will only encourage this violence. Many men who show strength are actually very unconfident and even inferior inside. Especially the wife’s excellent is inspired by his desire to strengthen their own such mentality. For the abuser, actively seek counseling and help to build their positive strength and self-confidence, to get rid of this anxiety and uncontrollable state. Family members can also accompany together for psychological counseling and help. Orange warning: Li Yang type sophistry does not think over the scene replay: crazy English founder Li Yang, after the implementation of domestic violence, emotions back to normal, no response to the partner or family accusations, and even to justify their violence. Expert Analysis: Nowadays, many people are under too much pressure from work and life because they are often on the move, and they have little communication with their families. In this environment, the violent party is always extreme negation of the value of the other party, no matter what they do are not good, once stimulated or contradicted, it is easy to trigger a beating and other behaviors. For people with the traditional concept of male superiority, I’m afraid it is difficult to want him to take the initiative to consult, in this case, the wife can seek the help of family members, women’s associations or professionals, such as psychological assistance, if it still does not work, to collect good evidence, decisively choose to leave, otherwise it will also be caught in the endless domestic violence. Another situation is that for those suffering from personality disorders, such as impulsive, paranoid, anti-social type, domestic violence is difficult to control; in this case, you must find a way to bring to a psychiatric outpatient clinic, using medication or electrotherapy therapy, more effective than psychotherapy alone. Red alert: Shu Teran type Cold violence is more hurtful Scene replay: Shu Teran in “Family with in-laws”, does not care about his wife, his wife becomes a shock, this mental injury is more painful than physical, more lethal. Expert Analysis: This situation is a new kind of violence that is gradually forming and spreading at present, and occurs more often in the families of middle and senior intellectuals. This kind of cold violence looks calm and harmless on the surface, but it can also have a huge negative impact on the victim. The victim should try to communicate with him and speak his mind, don’t let him ignore you, you can find a common friend to come and persuade, or go to a counselor to get out of this silent dilemma. The abuser so suppress their anger and emotions, but also very painful, such a way does not solve any problems, to express their feelings in a timely manner, learn to communicate and deal with the problem, otherwise it is easy to push themselves to the extreme.