Get familiar with your emotions and thoughts and spend more time in your body/feelings of self. Here are three initial techniques I recommend to you. 1. Breathe deeply. Use less reason and focus on your breathing, which is only a stopgap measure for your extremely active brain. Whether it is during the day or night, if you are experiencing a mental block, take out some time to do deep breathing. It soothes the brain and creates more mental space for stress reduction. For a few minutes, inhale and exhale slowly and deeply. Inhale through your nostrils and exhale through your mouth. Think of breathing as a joyful process. Delicately experience the slow passage of cool air through your nostrils and the slow expansion of your chest before returning to its original state. Relax your brain and body through breathing, which in turn enhances your problem-solving ability. Guangzhou Brain Hospital Psychiatric Department Xiao Pan Pan 2, exercise. Whether it is roller skating, walking or the bhajana style in yoga, it can transmit the body’s inner consciousness and give rest to the rational mind. I especially recommend yoga, qigong (a combination of movement and meditation) and taijiquan (graceful movements that bring inner you to peace) to you. These techniques contribute to your health and stimulate your sense of spirituality. The wisdom contained in the movements is much more than the wisdom in the mind. 3. Empathy. In order to align yourself with your emotions or those of others, ask yourself, “How can I respond from the heart rather than the mind?” —– This is the essence of empathy. Rational people usually resolve dilemmas with the emotions they inspire before empathizing, a regressive approach that feels mechanical, contemptuous or indifferent. If your spouse is overly preoccupied with work or children, empathize first. This will bring you and him (or her) into emotional alignment and will certainly be appreciated by your spouse. “I know how you feel” will no longer be an empty phrase. When your spouse listens to you, the tension dissolves. Then, you can suggest some specific strategies. Likewise, when you feel troubled, show understanding for the emergence of such feelings before coming to an answer or engaging in self-tarring. Such kindness will pave the way for an accelerated resolution of the problem.