I. Do I have to pay for counseling or therapy? Counseling or psychotherapy is a good job to help people, but counseling or psychotherapy is not simply listening to or talking with visitors; it is a process that incorporates the counseling skills learned by the psychologist, the psychologist’s own life experience and lessons, the psychologist’s own personality foundation, the psychologist’s wisdom, and the knowledge learned in various areas. It is a process of working with the client as a whole. When a visitor comes to the psychiatrist, the psychiatrist immediately mobilizes all the above aspects of the person, including his or her subpersonalities, and quickly establishes a link between the subconscious mind and the visitor. So, counseling or psychotherapy is not a simple thing, not a chat between friends, but a huge project of a short period of time. In this project, if the visitor is not willing to pay for it, it is like when you ask an engineer to design a building for you, to what extent do you think the designer can do it well even if he is willing to do it for you? The designer has to use all the professional knowledge he has learned, but also needs to use his aesthetic agency, his energy to outline every line, but also must let you understand the mood he draws, but also need to consider the harmony of the adjacent buildings, but also need to take care of the design of each room in the building, the application of each space, take care of fire prevention, security facilities, etc. How many construction engineers can do a good job of free engineering design with all their heart? The same goes for psychotherapy, which has no fundamental relationship with the quality of a person. Second, some people say: I am friends with the psychiatrist, he should not charge my fee. Answer:Generally, friends, family members and relatives of a psychologist cannot seek consultation or treatment from this psychologist, but they can help to do enlightenment work as family members and friends. Family members and friends doing counseling may hurt each other’s trust and relationship after analysis. If you must consult and treat, even if the psychologist does not charge, but the doctor, even if expected, it is impossible to achieve the above kind of link with you, the establishment of that link, think about it, how much energy support the psychologist needs, he has to use his individual cellular energy of those links, he will have to isolate from you, not to establish a relationship of friends, but that link. So, if you are a friend, you don’t sit in the psychotherapy room, you sit in the psychotherapy room, it must be a consultation relationship or a treatment relationship. If you end up well in the therapy room and turn your relationship into a consultation relationship, the therapist can do the consultation or treatment with you once, but there can’t be a second time, so you’d better pay the fee for the second time, just that, for now, your relationship has changed, you’d better keep your distance from the doctor, and when your consultation relationship is over, you’ll be friends again, etc. Paying the fee can better protect your consultation Otherwise, it will be very difficult for him to change his role back and forth, and he will not be at peace inside, which will affect the effect of treatment. Why must the cost of counseling or therapy follow the standard of a psychologist? A: The growth of every counselor or therapist is a long process. In this process, they not only need to learn the general counseling professional knowledge, but also need to master numerous psychotherapy skills, not only learn psychotherapy theories and methods, think and explore the common knowledge of human nature. In the process of treatment, because counselors or therapists are also simple “human beings”, they cannot escape from the common traumatic encounters of human beings, so in the process of working with visitors, we know that people who come to the counseling room or treatment room come with more or less the “trauma” of their lives. In the process of counseling or treating visitors, the counselor or therapist will always be “triggered” by the visitor’s trauma a few times or several times, and this is the “deadlock” that these people are bound to encounter. “In order to live or work better, the counselor or therapist must look for a mentor or a colleague or a friend to supervise. Constant learning and supervision, including before they do their counseling or therapy work, they have to go through the process of being supervised and analyzed and growing themselves, and the more senior the doctor, the more money and energy they spend in the growth process for self-growth. Therefore, before each psychologist works, they will make an assessment of the “value” of their own fees and set a standard for their fees in relation to their own level. This standard is not only referenced to the current fees in the industry, but also to their own participation, level, time, energy, and skills in the treatment process. The “price”, if too high, they have their own pressure, if too low, the counselor or therapist they are not high motivation, so, once you look for the psychologist to work together, you will inquire about the price in advance, and then do an experience, and then decide whether to follow the psychologist to work together, after all, to do counseling After all, psychological counseling or therapy is generally calculated by the course of treatment. Fourth, is the consultant’s fee against their original intention to help people? A: Compared to medical and surgical diseases, psychologists face a more complex inner world: the person’s emotions, feelings, cognition, experiences, personality base, etc. Therefore, treatment, psychotherapy is more complex and difficult, and often requires a process, which may be ten, twenty, thirty times or some people see a psychologist hundreds of times, which mostly happens in foreign countries Some countries that can reimburse for visits to a psychiatrist. Also, as opposed to repairing machines: dealing with machines, not to use a person’s emotions, emotions, if the repairer is willing to use emotions in repairing the machine, for example, some people see the machine as having emotions, then he nourishes himself with the emotions generated by the machine in the repair. If the machine is repaired and the mind is used, it is not working together with the mind of another person in the psychotherapy process, and it is necessary to try to “synchronize” the emotions and the mind in this work in order to get a good therapeutic effect. A good counselor or therapist will constantly look for the beauty and strength of human nature in the client’s anguish, loss, and pain, and accompany the client out of the gloom and doom. We also see that they face so much suffering and helplessness and powerlessness in life every day, the counselor can not always get the sunshine and rain, it is impossible not to be contaminated and hit, then, knowing all this, but also to work hard, to be with these people, you say: counselor or therapist, they deviated from their original intention of helping people? Of course, psychologists also need to eat, need to feed their families, and, if the food is not good, powerful brain work can to persevere. Therefore, psychological counseling or treatment is a process in which the psychiatrist’s spirit is constantly high for a period of time, and he has to continuously focus on the people, situations and circumstances of the present, and also on the connection between the past and today. If psychological counseling or therapy is so hard, why don’t counselors and therapists leave the profession? A: If a person reaches the level of a psychotherapist or counselor, he is more than enough to be a civil mediator, a kindergarten teacher, a classroom teacher for older children, and a teacher, but when these people see people with psychological disorders, they are still willing to do it. The process of helping others is also a process of self-nourishment. Of course, people who do counseling in this industry, more or less because of some of the psychological qualities of the self, before embarking on this road, so the circle more comments these people “temperament”. They often unintentionally, to help people as one of their mission, this is probably their destiny! What is the difference between psychological counseling and psychotherapy? A: (a) The objects of work are different: the former is mainly for general psychological problems, the consultation process basically does not move the patient’s personality base, often on the matter; the latter visitors are often people with serious psychological problems, the treatment process is longer, basically to move the patient’s personality base, in order to make the visitor change. Of course, both can do a long psychoanalysis, for the former, it is a more luxurious process, the analysis, you can better understand the human subconscious, but also the collective subconscious of the larger society, etc.; (b) different backgrounds of psychologists: the former is a psychiatrist trained by general institutions or equivalent organizations, the latter requires a certain amount of psychiatric clinical experience of psychologists, the former belongs to the The former is a profession in the labor sector, and the latter is a profession in the health sector working in hospitals. At present, the quality of psychologists varies because the psychological profession in China started relatively late compared to Western countries, and the current demand for the psychological profession in China is high. There is a great lack of psychologists in hospitals, and the national people do not know much about psychological counseling and treatment, and most of them are still not acceptable. Therefore, psychological counseling and psychotherapy in China are not strictly separated from each other, and a large number of patients who need psychological treatment do it outside the hospital, and there are many excellent psychological counselors outside the hospital doing psychological treatment, and many psychologists in hospitals are growing.