Patient: The rigid relationship with your mother made you feel depressed and generalized to make you feel inferior in many aspects. Have not received treatment for cognitive shift and adjustment Ling Shao-Ang: Your self-reflection ability is still very good, and you can realize that the good or bad relationship between mother and daughter will affect your interpersonal relationship, which is indeed the case. That’s why you should do the first thing to fix your mother-daughter relationship. Your mother will only be angry with you, no harm, I believe your mother loves you, communicate with her more. Patient: Thank you, Dr. Ling. Although I can now realize that I have a big problem in my relationship with my mother, I can only stay at the level of awareness, there is no good way to change, mainly to change my mother’s way of education, I am very distressed. I have also read a lot of cases of family education, and in the end, they all mention that parents should care more about their children and so on, but not all parents realize their own problems, and even if they do, it doesn’t mean that they can change, so as a child at this time seems to be so helpless and painful. Mother in the way of education is really a lot of detours, every time I see some of the books on family education I wonder why mothers are doing the opposite, it is simply a comprehensive antithesis. I also know that being a mother does not mean any harm to the children, but this unhealthy way of education has really played a very bad influence on me. My mother has a lot of shortcomings of her own, which of course has a lot to do with her level of education and her own upbringing, and I’m not going to count anything, but I don’t want to just settle for being ordained and allowing myself to be educated in such a way. We’re just very different in the way we think and we have very different values and it’s hard to communicate. Since I was a child, he has never cared much about my feelings, never had a long talk, she is a very weak sense of family. Growing up in this environment, I may be accustomed to this cold family environment with classmates and friends to socialize with them will think that I am a little bit will not care about people, in fact, I do not want to be like that. In a group of enthusiastic roommates under the influence or help I slowly began to learn to care more about people, I feel that I have made great progress in this area, but back home on vacation and have to deal with my mother who will not care for me, the two extremes of the environment so I can not adapt to, so that my heart produced a mother of all kinds of good behavior of the luxury of hope. The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment, I was in the extravagant hope over and over again in the blood, and finally had to let myself live in reality, tell myself, my mother for me as if there is no, so that in the face of his lack of concern for me to face with a normal heart. Ling Zhao’ang: People have a self-growth aspect, not completely dependent on the family environment, the social environment and introspection are very important. Although mom will not be a mother, but after all, mom raised, you think carefully about mom still has many advantages, do not magnify her shortcomings. People’s lives are learning, mom is also learning how to be a good mom, just walk the road some problems, not to mention, she has walked the detour, on how you can be a good mom in the future still have something to learn ah.