Primary and secondary school students are still in the immature stage of personality. If children at this age have “problems”, such as not loving to study, lying and fighting, Internet addiction, etc., it is definitely related to their parents. My words have the following three meanings: First, a child’s personality comes from his or her parents’ genes, just as looks come from parents. If one or both parents have bad habits such as impatience, emotional instability, aversion to learning, immaturity of personality, smoking, drinking and gambling, etc., they will be passed on to their children. Of course, all the good qualities will also be inherited. Second: in addition to heredity, the early years of the family atmosphere and education model will give the child a deep imprint, such imprint if defective, to the school is not the teacher with a good education discipline can offset the transformation, after all, the child in the school 7 ~ 8 hours, at home, but also more than 10 hours. Third: the learning ability of each child is not the same innate, emotional control ability, the ability to deal with people is a thousand people. Therefore, for the “problem” of the child, I give parents the following suggestions: First, parents should be a role model for children, first correct their own bad habits and bad temper, and then educate the child; Second, the husband and wife education concepts do not agree with the child can not be when the child conflict, can only be discussed behind the child’s back, so as to avoid the long-term past with the child noisy, so that children Become “two-faced”, “bullying”; Third, do not always take the best children and our children than, so our children are hopeless; in fact, as long as the child every little bit of progress and his previous state than, will feel hopeful, confident, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy, happy. In fact, as long as the child every little progress compared to his previous state, will feel hopeful, confident, but also feel happy, happy, good feeling and good emotional state of the child and parents will produce “positive energy”. Finally, if your child still seems to be acting out of character, you may want to bring him to our specialists for a checkup, and if you find that there are signs of psychological disorders, you will be guided on how to diagnose and treat them in a timely manner.