In her suicide note, a 14-year-old girl wrote: “My death was forced on me by my parents, who made my life worse than death and made it impossible for me to go on living. I won’t let them go even if I become a ghost. The police are going to convict them.” A 30-year-old man faced with his girlfriend who proposed to break up with him roared like crazy: “If you dare to break up with me, I will destroy the hope of your whole family and make your whole family suffer for the rest of your life. I’m only giving you two ways now, either stay with me or hurt each other.” Everyone experiences anger. Some people take the anger they feel because of someone and direct it at innocent people; some people pretend as if nothing has happened and then inflict retaliation on the person who hurt them; some people take their anger out on themselves and they can’t face up to the person who has made them angry, so they smoke and drink, binge eat, or point fingers at themselves relentlessly. If we don’t find healthy ways to acknowledge and express our anger, it will find improper, unhealthy and even counterproductive outlets for itself. Unless we can control our anger, it will wreak havoc in our lives. Anger is a necessary emotion and an important one. It is a signal that something is wrong in our relationships, in our environment, or in ourselves. Unfortunately, even though many aspects of our lives are now less overwhelming, our tolerance for anger has instead decreased. We are freer to express emotions such as love, affection, and fear compared to our ancestors, but our tolerance for anger is much more limited. Anger can make a huge difference in the world. It can be the catalyst that triggers riots, revolts against injustice, and the creation of new systems and new social organizations. Anger empowers those who are ruled by tyranny, filling their bodies with courage to bravely resist their oppressors. Anger can also be destructive, perhaps in the form of wars, prolonged family struggles, and divorced couples. Words spoken out of anger can sever the strongest bonds. Repressed anger from childhood can lead the most loving parents to commit violence against their own children, and this vicious cycle of domestic violence continues in the next generation. If you are self-conscious of guilt and shame and turn the anger on yourself, the anger will eat away at your self-esteem and motivation and confidence in yourself. Anger that has been suppressed and denied for years will worsen as it builds up, leading to a distorted personality until one day it erupts and even kills another person. Since anger has such possibilities for both good and bad, it is important that we know as much as we can about it. When we were children, we should have been taught how to avoid unhealthy ways of venting our anger and know how to express it in a positive way. In reality this is not the case, we are all prevented from expressing the emotion of anger and we are also prevented from expressing other so-called negative emotions including fear, sadness, guilt, and jealousy. We are not led to deal with and express anger in a positive way, nor are we told that expressing anger in a positive way can change the environment and the world. If we are to learn to deal with anger in a healthy way, we need to face it head on, learn to accept it, learn to turn it into motivation, gain strength from it, say goodbye to past resentments, and create a healthier, more balanced life.