Premature ejaculation is a relatively clear sexual dysfunction, but also one of the most misunderstood normal sexual function, to give a complete and precise definition is very difficult, there have been a variety of definitions in the past, such as some people believe that the penis is inserted into the vagina within 30 seconds of ejaculation is called premature ejaculation, and some people believe that the penis is inserted into the vagina after less than 15 times of ejaculation is called premature ejaculation and so on, but in May this year, the American Academy of Urology held a new definition. In the American Academy of Urology held in May this year, the latest definition of premature ejaculation was given: Premature ejaculation is a sexual dysfunction caused by ejaculation, meaning that it always, or almost always, occurs prior to vaginal penetration or within one minute of vaginal penetration, with a complete or almost complete lack of ability to control ejaculation, and resulting in its own undesirable consequences, such as distress, anxiety, frustration, and/or avoidance of sexual intimacy. With the current medical model the causes of premature ejaculation can be attributed to three major factors: physical, psychological and social. The following is mainly about the psychological factors. Although 20 years of reform and opening up, the country has accepted many healthy sexual concepts, but there are still many psychological misunderstandings, for example, many people believe that the longer the lovemaking time, the better, the easier it is to satisfy the women, where we have to be clear about one thing, that is, the two main functions of human sexual intercourse: reproduction of offspring and fulfillment of libido and experience of pleasure. So what we need to focus on is whether we feel pleasure and thrill during sex, not the length of time, ejaculation why need to be so long! I encountered in the clinic counseling someone to take their own and Japanese AV video male and female actors in the comparison, that how they have sex so long, they are not premature ejaculation ah? In fact, regardless of the duration of lovemaking, as long as both parties feel pleasure and pleasure is normal! Regardless of China and foreign countries, in traditional society, men always appear in the image of the strong, high self-expectation, and many people, including some women are often wrong to see the sexual ability as one of the elements of the strong, sexual life time has become one of the symbols of sexual ability, once encountered a premature ejaculation and other sexual frustration events, many men will lose confidence in themselves! So men should lower their own high expectations, in the male premature ejaculation will make both parties are very upset, the male has been guilty of self-blame, this time more need to women’s comfort, understanding, encouragement, gentle and considerate to help the male overcome the fear, nervousness, guilt mentality, do not blame, blame the male! Another common misconception is that sex life is narrowly defined, which is mostly seen in the low cultural level of the population. Many people simply think that sex is intercourse, which is very one-sided, in fact, sex also includes verbal flirting, caressing, kissing, hugging and other foreplay and afterplay. Sufficient foreplay can not only brew women’s orgasm, but also reduce the male sensitivity to sexual stimulation, reduce the occurrence of premature ejaculation. Men and women need to master healthy scientific knowledge of relevance, understand the physiological differences in sexual reactions between men and women, eliminate misunderstandings, and appropriately master the necessity of skills in sexual life, so that sexual life is more harmonious and wonderful. In many people, the first time sex, usually masturbation or prostitution tend to worry about being found, and thus often quickly, over time may cause their own habitual reaction and premature ejaculation. Little Li newlywed soon came to Guangdong to work has been 3 years, and colleagues rented together, his wife is intermittent from his hometown to visit themselves, the two met with each other, but in view of the lack of their own house, every time they have sex can only be in the rental house, but almost every time there is a premature ejaculation and make the two people interested in nothing. In fact, because in the sex Li always worried about their workers back and lack of security led to tension and anxiety, premature ejaculation. So the quiet and secretive environment of the sex life is also very important, in addition to avoid pornographic indulgence, excessive emotion, to overcome the bad habits of excessive masturbation. Sexual anxiety. In fact, each of us inevitably will not appear once or twice “impotence”, “premature ejaculation” or sex life is not as good as desired, which is very normal, but often the first few times the sex life is not as good as desired will produce a shadow in the hearts of some people, so that their anxiety about sex, always worried that I can not, and thus in the sexual life of mental tension and anxiety and the so-called “impotence, premature ejaculation” and so on. Learn to relax yourself every time you have sex, avoid tension, anxiety, the more nervous the more you think “tonight can not premature ejaculation”, the result is to strengthen the psychological implication but more prone to premature ejaculation. Many young men in the first sexual life ‘failure’ that they can not, and put on themselves such as “impotence, premature ejaculation” and other hats, and even worried about the impact of their own marriage and fertility, so they lose confidence in themselves, seek medical treatment, abuse of a variety of tonic kidney It is not advisable to abuse all kinds of kidney tonic or aphrodisiac drugs or health care products. Too sensitive to sexual stimulation. Sexual response is triggered by both physical and psychological stimuli, which are generally balanced, while in patients with premature ejaculation, the center of sexual stimulation is dominant, and the most common form of psychological stimulation is sexual fantasy. The most common form of psychological stimulation is sexual fantasy. Few social interactions with women, failed marital experiences, and too little sex can cause their own psychological sensitivity, and even some words such as “sanitary napkin” can cause some people to excessive sexual fantasies and sexual impulses, while in the real sex is more likely to have premature ejaculation. There is another important point, that is, the two sides of the emotional harmony or not. Deal with the coordination of interpersonal relations, family relations, as well as the relationship between husband and wife, to maintain a good mood, and strive to create a good warm, good family atmosphere and quiet sex life environment. Scientific and rational understanding, relaxed and natural mood, harmonious and fulfilling relationship, good living habits, quiet and private environment together to build a pleasant sex!