Respect for the mentally ill, family members must first practice it! This morning check in a 14-year-old junior girl, admitted to the hospital diagnosed as schizophrenia, the main symptoms are verbal hallucinations and delusions of victimization, almost every day out of thin air can hear someone talking to her, saying she is this bad that bad, sometimes also ordered her to do something, at the same time she feels that her parents are not biological, think that someone is following her to monitor her, strangers on the street talk is also directed at her. Her parents had a hard time mobilizing all their strength to persuade her to come to the hospital, but during her hospitalization, she was reluctant to talk to her parents about her situation, and they were not sure of what to do, so they would talk to the doctors every day about the behavior they observed in her, such as drawing the curtains, being alone and dazed, as if she was listening to someone, often opening the door to look outside, looking nervous and scared, etc. When the parents saw their child’s behavior, they would repeatedly go to the doctor and nurse, asking for an injection, asking for additional medication for the child, or even asking to put the child in confinement. When the child was unwilling to express the content of her hallucinations and delusions when the doctor checked the room, the parents would criticize him to his face for lying or hiding, and even if the doctor and nurse repeatedly persuaded them, the parents could not completely stop not talking, so the child had intended to stay in the hospital without worrying, but when she felt that she was not understood by her parents, she had poor emotional control, and all of a sudden she made a lot of noise, dropped things, and even wanted to go out and run away from home When the doctors and parents comforted her, the child would feel that the doctors and nurses and parents were in collusion, and so she became more and more temperamental and impulsive, and because of the appearance of dangerous behavior, she was no longer suitable for an open ward, so she had to be restrained and sent to a closed ward later, thanks to the joint efforts of her parents and several nurses. The child cried his heart out: “You really are not my real parents, you really are not my real parents, I hate all of you”, and at this time, the parents were also painful to suppress their tears, as doctors, we are also heartbroken, parents are afraid of delaying the child’s condition and treatment, and thus in the doctor’s room check and The parents also felt that the child did not recognize them, they felt that the child was heartless, they felt that they did not expect their hard-earned child to become mentally ill, insulting the family, the family could not raise their heads, they would unconsciously dislike the child, angry and furious with the child. The impulsive child is a very strong psychological stress for other patients in the open ward, which can aggravate their condition or fluctuate significantly, so that their treatment is even foregone. According to the provisions of the mental health law, all the doctor can do is to temporarily transfer the child to a closed ward for treatment, even though we know that he may be more conducive to recovery in the open ward. No one is wrong, but how is it that the child was so painfully moved to a closed ward? The conventional view may be that the child’s condition has worsened and that the child’s speech and behavior is out of control because the child is mentally ill. Some people may think that it is the parents’ fault that they should not expose the child’s lies to his face, but, in the end, it is the child who suffers more. So here, I would like to emphasize a special point with all parents, whether you have a mentally ill person in your family or not: parents should learn to respect their children! We always say that “good children are complimented”. Only when children are complimented will their self-esteem and self-confidence be built up and their sense of self-superiority and self-sufficiency be formed, and they may feel that they are “respectable” in general social situations. “This way, even if certain psychiatric symptoms occur, such as hallucinations, delusions, etc., they will respond in a way that is relatively rational and in line with social norms, and the chances of impulsivity will be reduced. Therefore, we need to raise our children from childhood to make them feel: “I am a respectable person”, no matter where they are, everyone will be happy to play with them, and adults will like them, so they will feel safe enough in the world and will not explore the world with vigilance and excessive sensitivity, and they will have a sense of trust in people and things. . Even neutral words may deeply sting her fragile heart, and her inner monologue is often “I am annoying, I am bad, I am unlovable… ” When she has a mental illness, she is even more sensitive: “I am a sick person and everyone looks down on me.” “It’s like my parents aren’t biological, otherwise why would they send me to a mental hospital, they actually agreed to send me to a closed ward and lock me up, they’re really not my biological parents, they’re all bad people.” So in this state of mind, it’s hard to maintain some sanity and some resistance to the effects of psychiatric symptoms. So parenting, like our doctors treating patients, is first and foremost about the people they serve: respect!