Question 1: Ms. Zhang: My nephew is almost 18 years old, 1.8 meters tall, thin and pretty, but he is withdrawn and does not like to talk. In high school, he was admitted to a major school in Beijing, but in his second year of high school he said he would not go on, and had no choice but to suspend his studies for a year. In September this year, he was allowed to repeat his second year of high school, but he failed all the exams, and after his teacher approached his parents, he stopped going to school again. Now stay at home all day, saying that nothing wants to do, who said it does not work. As a bystander, I feel that his biggest problem is “cold”, does not love life, does not love to play, does not love to wear, and does not love to eat, in other words, does not love anything. His parents are very anxious, but they don’t know what to do. I would like to ask, is this depression? How should I cure it? CuiYongHua: According to the information provided above, the preliminary judgment is that this child may be suffering from depression. Depression is a psychological state with low emotion as the core expression, usually manifested as inner sadness, lack of pleasure, slow thinking, poor concentration, memory loss, slow movement, fatigue and weakness, often feel discontented, no interest in anything, lack of confidence, and even excessive thoughts and behaviors such as suicide, sometimes accompanied by insomnia or lethargy, weight loss, eating too much or too little, etc. Physiological changes. At present, there is a significant increase in the number of high school students with depression, the onset of which is particularly prominent during the senior year. Many students who are top achievers in their studies are hampered by the disease during the sprint stage and lose all their efforts. This problem has attracted widespread attention from professionals, parents and society. There are two main reasons why high school students suffer from depression: firstly, poor psychological development, which is the basis of the disease. The second is the pressure of high expectations, which is the condition of the disease. For this child, the personality is withdrawn, non-verbal, and introspective type that is not good at communication. Interpersonal disorders will make the “closed mind” grow and form a psychological defect, which will seriously affect his normal study and life. “Interaction deprivation is as serious a psychological injury as emotional deprivation. This may form the basis of the disease. The contradiction between academic backwardness and fragile self-esteem and high parental expectations may be the cause and condition of the illness. As a result of the interaction of these causes, the child becomes less talkative, unwilling to interact with others, less motivated to study and work, discouraged, and the cultural and sports activities, movies and TV that used to interest him/her now feel bland and boring. The child becomes more and more introverted, or even isolated and self-absorbed, until he or she drops out of school. The treatment of depression in high school students should be based on the principle of equal emphasis on antidepressant medication and psychotherapy, and it is not correct to rely solely on medication or psychological counseling. After the medication has relieved and improved the condition, then with psychotherapy, it will make the patient recognize the disease, change the cognition, improve the personality, and enhance the ability and self-confidence to cope with difficulties and setbacks. Only in this way can the purpose of the root cause be achieved. It is recommended that the child visit a regular specialist hospital to further clarify the diagnosis and avoid delayed aggravation of the condition with a view to early recovery! Question 2: A high school sophomore: I am a rural child who grew up in a warring home where my father verbally abused and kicked my mother like a mad cow. I had two fights with my father over my mother and once hit him, but everyone around me said I was wrong. In 2003, I was admitted to a school in Shaanxi Province in the ambitious class. I was still homesick when I first left home, but when I went home, I couldn’t feel the warmth of home again, and I had to drift alone. In junior high school, I was number one. Therefore, in high school, I was also strict with myself. But I found that my teachers gave all the opportunities to class leaders and students who studied well, and I didn’t have any opportunities. At this time, I felt that I was not as good as others. Once, I only got 73 points in the language test, but I put a lot into the language, such as reading, notes, and insights, and I finished them all carefully, and I was really ashamed of myself. My deskmate, a girl, often asked me some study questions, and I was happy to explain to her. Gradually I felt that I was not right, and when I could not see her, I felt bad, which made me not at all efficient in my evening study and weekend review. I guess this was the crush, and I couldn’t pull myself out of the abyss. Once I took an online test, I suffered from moderate to Chongqing depression, and I also feel that there is no hope for the future, everything should stop, and I have no motivation to move forward. Please, what should I do? Cui Yonghua: In fact, depression is also a normal emotional reaction. In life, everyone will face various kinds of dissatisfaction, encounter all kinds of frustration, but the majority of people can resolve the unhappiness, forget about the troubles, only a small number of people involuntarily wallowing in it, difficult to extricate themselves, accumulate over time, frustration and pessimism, and even the general shortcomings of the past mistakes magnified into an unforgivable “crime”, and to The “sinful life” is over. Depression is not the same as depression, and online tests are not credible, and you should not be discouraged by them. According to your situation, I propose the following suggestions: a. Adjust it through psychological counseling. Take the initiative to seek help from a psychiatrist or a psychological counselor to objectively reflect your condition, and avoid a passive, negative attitude. You should face up to your illness, take as much rest as possible, moderately reduce your academic load, and believe that you will eliminate your illness soon. If you have anything unpleasant or unhappy in your mind, you can tell your doctor and teacher in a painful way, don’t put your worries and sorrows on your mind, and don’t suppress yourself too much. Second, adjust your cognition and be happy with yourself. First of all, have a correct understanding of the worries you are facing. All people have worries, do not think that good emotions only belong to those who have smooth sailing, everything goes well, and do not think that they are the most unfortunate people under the sky because of their own momentary worries. In fact, a person is happy or not, and its view of life is closely related. Some people are extremely unfortunate in life, but can still enjoy themselves, as the so-called “happy with what they have”; some people seem to be successful and famous, but also depressed. Therefore, we should be good at capturing the happy factors in life and learning, less to experience and strengthen the unpleasant things, learn to be happy with themselves. Second, strengthen the cultivation of self-awareness. Self-awareness includes self-awareness, self-evaluation, self-control and other elements; objective evaluation of the self, to their own “load”; effective control of the self, out of the depressed state of mind, happy to learn and live. Do not set your “expectations” too high, do not have to compete with others in everything, than the high and low can not; avoid individualistic thinking in the brain, personal interests, reputation will be lighter, “no selfishness at the bottom of the heart, the world is wide”, only then, you will not be immersed in a small circle of personal gains and losses of self-seeking trouble all day long. Of course, this does not mean to avoid difficulties, but to look at difficulties with an optimistic attitude, from another perspective to find the motivation to overcome difficulties. Third, focus on communication, reasonable catharsis. From the physiological point of view, people have the need for communication, catharsis and belonging; even if they are on a deserted island, they will talk to themselves or to the flowers and trees. According to our survey, 91.5% of the students are eager to interact with others and want to be recognized by the interpersonal atmosphere, however, only 57.5% of them can get what they want. A considerable number of students are in the awkward situation of “wanting to interact with people, but afraid of interacting with people, and not good at interacting: longing for friendship, but do not know how to get along with classmates and friends; thirsty for understanding, but do not know how to understand others”; learning to behave is the foundation of society. First of all, you must have enough courage and self-confidence, often self-reference, motivate yourself to take the first step bravely, and openly accept the possible setbacks. Secondly, to learn the art of interaction: look at yourself, tolerance of others, sincere initiative, learn to listen, learn to smile, learn to appreciate (others). I believe that with time you will gradually integrate into the group.