Introduction
–Step by step, the breeze rises and silently soothes the child’s heart at all times.
–The way to treat children. It is not necessary to use words and symbols to penetrate into the depths of the child’s heart.
The basic mindset of parents.
Application of interaction with the child.
The grass does not grow under the dense tree. Over-care is the same as pulling up seedlings to do harm.
Be loving and patient, don’t move and pretend to be foolish and ludicrous, but observe everything about your child carefully. Do not pay attention to the small injuries and frustrations that the child endures. Try to interact with your child through body language in your daily life, in addition to the verbal lessons you have to teach.
Basic mentality.
It is important to understand that our children and we are a relationship of destiny, not our property. We can also learn how to grow ourselves through the process of his growth.
Only you have the key to solving your child’s problems.
Others can only offer advice, and it is difficult for others to help you convince your child.
It is important to have the basic idea of leading by example.
It is important to treat your child as a friend so that you do not overindulge or be overly harsh.
Let the child feel that we are clumsier than him/her in many places, so that he will be close to us in the way of a confidant friend without playing tricks (application of empathy).
It is important to maintain a state of peace of mind and body at all times in order to be able to respond in a way that is appropriate to the state of being with our children, and to help our children stabilize their emotions when they are not around.
If you do not have peace of mind and body, you will be dominated by your children and the situation may become uncontrollable.
It is difficult for you to see if your actions and words are in violation of the principles of good people, so you need the guidance and advice of a good friend.
Confront your child’s problems.
Children’s problems: they start at home, worsen at school, and harm society.
When different families get together, don’t just talk, but always pay attention to your child’s behavior. If a child has a major problem, deal with it immediately (ignore the minor ones), otherwise it will become a problem later.
Examples of problems that may become big problems – need immediate parent-child communication.
Crying after playing with another child – he may not be capable enough or tolerant enough to tolerate others, etc.
Playing rock-kicking games with other children – lack of awareness of the danger of being too wild.
Playing video games for too long – no self-restraint.
How to deal with children playing with electric toys.
Video games are a product of the times, and it is unlikely that a child will not play them for more than an hour.
Make an agreement with your child, stipulate the time for playing video games during the week and during exams (do not fix the time), and the punishment for breaking the rules (set by your child), and make sure to punish them when they break the rules.
Help your child switch to a laptop computer and lock it in a locker if necessary (during the hours when playing is not allowed).
The key to raising IQ.
When children encounter difficulties, they often think of solutions first, and if they can’t think of a solution, they want to find a book for reference or ask a teacher, and once they can’t think or find one, they get discouraged.
The key to improving intelligence in learning: initiative
–When you encounter any problem, you face it directly.
–Once you find a problem, your mind is filled with the excitement of facing something new.
The Microsoft Windows system successfully combines electric toys with the feature that the answer is available at the click of a mouse, causing most children not to think and not to want to think.
The correct way to read is not to think, but to read and read more, and to use intuition to understand in order to summarize the symbolic and logical relationships and know how to apply them.
Students who are low achievers should use the correct reading method to improve their IQ.
Peace of mind and body will make the mind work more efficiently and get into a good state.
Body language.
Usually think about how your eyebrows, eyes, eyelashes, nose, lips, face, hands, feet, body, etc. move when you talk to your child. These are the most mysterious and direct and effective body language between you and your child – different between each parent and child.
Practice some of these movements on a regular basis, just in case.
New body language can be created.
Inappropriate body language.
When a child comes home with a downcast head (perhaps bringing home a bad test score, getting into trouble at school or outside of school, etc., when they need the most comfort), but we
– make ‘hum’, ‘tsk’, ‘ooh’, ‘ugh ‘ and other sounds of displeasure, impatience, or dissatisfaction.
– Make helpless expressions, or expressions that the world has come to an end.
Causes of child disobedience.
Chronic inability to self-affirm.
Judgmental system is a bit unstable and defiance is at work.
Signs that the child is becoming disobedient.
Weak will power, lack of confidence and patience, and even bad habits in severe cases (drug use, car racing, mobbing, stealing property, gambling, conflicts with teachers and classmates, etc.).
Emotions become unstable, and arguments with family members increase in frequency.
Lying more often and making promises about things you can’t do.
Coming home later.
Playing video games at home often becomes uncontrolled.
How to make your child obedient during the day.
Communicate with your child often – to strengthen the stability of your child’s discriminatory system.
Maintain your own physical and mental stability at all times.
Tangible communication: Talk to your child often (regardless of the length of time), encourage him to talk about his worries, and exchange opinions with him. Punishment must be given for faults, but stand by him in critical situations. Achievements must be praised or rewarded.
Intangible communication: Use more body language to express opinions. Only when no one is looking can you make intimate contact such as holding hands and hugging shoulders, and gently touching your forehead and cheeks with your hand when you are asleep.
Enhance your child’s sense of accomplishment – strengthen the stability of your child’s discriminatory system.
Helping your child raise his or her IQ and pursue efficiency in reading will make it easier for him or her to be self-assured and avoid the triggers of deterioration.
Use your child’s own performance as a standard to measure, don’t be overly demanding, recognize your child’s achievements, and appreciate your child.
Read with your child more often, but do not do things on the computer, or watch TV or talk on the phone by yourself.
Let your child read with you, let them be the picket, and encourage them to report themselves.
Ways to keep yourself stable: You can silently stabilize your child’s mood at the same time.
Master some relaxation methods yourself.
Find someone else to talk to about your worries.
Practice forbidden words and body language often so that you can get used to not talking before your child.
Other precautions to take.
Never nag or talk too much.
Play dumb with your words and ask your child for small favors to relax and bring the parent-child relationship closer.
Tell your own daydreams (fake) to your child.
Observe your child’s behavior and encourage him to talk about school or classmates, but never add random comments unless your child asks for your opinion or his ideas are seriously missing, otherwise you can only go along with his words and say good or bad.
If you have a complaint, you should hold it back and not say it in words, but if you need to punish him, you should say why you are punishing him.
If you have any encouragement or requests for your child, send him a note.
When you have time, take your child to a nursery once in a while to take care of orphans who have lost both parents, so as to inspire them to have compassion for the weak in their hearts.
Encourage your child to have a normal routine and eat a normal diet without favoritism.
Emergency strategies.
1. The correct attitude of parents when their children have problems or do not listen.
Appreciate the child and ask yourself if you are making excessive demands? Are you not looking at him from the point of view of being his friend?
Review your own attitude to see if there is something inappropriate.
–Is there an inappropriate use of body language?
–Do you often have an impatient mindset?
–Are you talking too much EE, etc.?
All effective solutions are thought out by ourselves when we are in a stable mood, others can only provide us with advice, if he oversteps his bounds, it is very likely that he has another intention, or at least owes him a favor.
Never go around asking gods or relying on others, so that you panic and lose the opportunity to remedy the situation in time.
Keep your emotions stable and get help and inspiration from people around you.
2, the child’s discriminatory system has gone wrong, how to effectively communicate with the child.
Forbid speech, or at least do not say unnecessary words.
3. How to make our children listen to us even though their judgment system is already out of order.
Only when you are extremely calm, you can use your body language to give instructions to your child, which may be partially effective.
Before the child wakes up after sleeping, a brief request repeated in a whisper and gently while stroking the child’s forehead or cheek can also be partially effective.
4. How to fix your child’s faulty discriminatory system.
Touch the child’s forehead, cheeks, body and limbs where there is no fear of itching.
Encourage your child to talk about his or her pain, and be a silly listener, only making brief comments or gently nodding or shaking his or her head or replying with a yes or a no.
Let your child play video games at home, and play with your child when you have time (ask your child to teach yourself how to play, but try to act silly to reduce the amount of time your child actually plays), or even allow your child to bring classmates home to play with you, but be sure to limit the time.
Often take your child to a nursery to take care of orphans and encourage them to do more of all kinds of giving to these orphans, using the time when their compassion is triggered to mend their inner wounds.
Change all your bad habits and behaviors (discuss with your friends those that are bad habits and bad behaviors that you are not aware of).
Conclusion
The grass does not grow under the dense tree. Too much or too little pampering is not reasonable.
Always digest what you have learned and how to do it, keep trying them out, and adapt them to your own use in order to improve your own ability to make your child listen.