The poet Kahlil Gibran once spoke of the “wisdom of loneliness” in marriage: Keep a space in your union, and let the winds of heaven dance between you. Love one another, but do not create chains of love; between the two sides of your souls, let love be a gushing ocean. Fill each other’s cups, but do not sip from one cup only, share your bread, but do not enjoy the same piece of bread only. Laugh together, sing and dance, Chen Baoping, Department of Psychology, Dalian Seventh People’s Hospital, but allow each other’s solitude, like the strings of a lute, though quivering in the same music, yet you are you and I am I, independent of each other. Surrender your mind, but not to be kept by the other, for only the hand of life can hold your mind. Stand together, yet not too near; see not the beams of the temple towering each to the other, nor the oak and the pine, growing in each other’s shadow.