No matter how good people’s wishes are, there will always be life and death when people get old, and widowhood is a problem that no old person can avoid. From a psychological point of view, it is harmful and unhelpful for the elderly to be “celibate”. Remarriage of the elderly is a sign of social civilization and progress, and the elderly have the same right as the young to bravely pursue marital happiness. It is the responsibility of children to support them to remarry while showing filial respect to the elderly, and to make all the elderly healthy and happy. So how should the elderly remarry self-psychological adjustment? I have three suggestions: First, correct the psychological motivation to remarry. Older people should also remarry with the need for love as the main line, followed by the need for security and physiological and other needs. Many elderly people remarried and not happy or quick match quickly away, the reason is the lack of a solid foundation of love, the result to the elderly again caused harm. Some older people think that remarriage is just a “partner” to pass the day, ignoring the value of remarriage love. Whether young, middle-aged or elderly marriage, love is always the first. Second, overcome the psychology of return. Older people always like to dwell on the memories of the past, in psychology is called regression psychology. After remarriage, the elderly often unconsciously to the successive two families to compare, especially when encountering unhappy things or conflicts, will recall the sweetness of love in the past, regret and resentment, which is emotionally distant from the psychological remarried couple. To overcome this psychology, the key is that both sides should realize that the past has gone forever, and in the face of the new family, they should be strict with themselves and treat others with generosity, and try to eliminate conflicts. Older people have more stable personalities, interests and hobbies. However, after entering menopause, there are different changes in the physical and psychological characteristics of people. This requires the elderly to understand each other’s psychological characteristics as soon as possible after remarriage, and treat the old partner’s character and habits correctly. The more physically fit party should be patient, comforting, understanding, understanding and tolerating each other. Third, the same treatment of children from previous marriages. Remarried couples should overcome the “exclusive” mentality, and the new spouse and children to establish a new relationship, the two sides of the children are seen as their own children, to do their parental duties, in food, clothing, living and other small things in life to be treated equally. In addition, the remarried elderly often have the self-blame mentality of sorry for their deceased partners, can carry out some positive and enjoyable activities to avoid this mentality.