The death of Robin Williams was a sad one, and a reminder of the horrors of depression. According to the WHO, there are about 350 million people suffering from depression worldwide, and many people are reluctant to seek medical attention because of the face, so depression has become the “silent killer”.
Here are 15 things you should not say to people with depression
1. Other people are worse off than you!
The fact that someone else has a problem doesn’t mean that my problem will go away. We should say: I’m sorry to hear that you’re hurting, is there anything I can do to help you?
2. Tomorrow will be better
In fact it is unfair to put such a lot of pressure on a patient who has been struggling alone in the dark for a long time looking for an outlet. We should say: one step at a time, I will always be there for you!
3. Life just isn’t fair
This is yet another blow to them. It’s true that life may be unfair, but that does nothing to solve their problems. We should say: I’m sorry this happened to you. We all will and will get through it!
4. You have to deal with it
The solution to depression for many people is to face it alone each and every day. Repeating it will make them feel like they are not good enough. We should say: You’re not alone in this fight, I’m here!
5. Life goes on
Yes, life does go on, but for people who resist depression, they can’t find an outlet. Don’t know if get through a day, let alone a whole week. We should say: you have so much excitement in your life, I will accompany you to re-explore it all.
6. I know how you feel, I’ve been depressed too
The truth is that no one can really relate. You saying that will make them feel like you are devaluing their feelings and this battle. We need to remember that depression is far worse than a bad day or bad in some way.
We should say: I can only imagine what you are going through, but I will do my best to understand.
7. You are being too selfish
Depression is not a choice item, not what they choose. We should say: I really miss you, is there anything I can do?
8. Go out and relax and have a good time, have a little drink and forget about it all
Going out for a night is not going to help depression. Depression is not a bad day, it is hundreds of days and it seems impossible to get rid of. We should say: I’d love to spend time with you, I’ll lend you all my shoulders and chest. Maybe we could go out for a coffee and a chat?
9. You’ve got me in a bad mood too
Once again, depression is not their choice. Struggling with depression has made them very helpless, and what they want is for you to really worry. We should say: I really don’t want to see you so lost, let me do something for you!
10. What are you really depressed about?
Depression isn’t always caused by hurt or something painful, it just happens. Sometimes it doesn’t seem so serious. We should say: I’m sorry I didn’t realize you were in so much pain, I’m right here!
11. Don’t feel sorry for yourself
Feeling sorry for yourself and resisting depression are very different, although some times it seems like they go hand in hand. We should say: I can see you’re struggling and it makes me sad too. What can I do?
12. You just go out and run
Although exercise seems to play some role in dealing with the day, it can also be very difficult for people with depression to get out of bed. We should say: I need a little walk with me, stay with me!
13. You just need to get out and get some air
Still this sentence, for depressed people to leave the house is not simple, and even if you do it is not a very good way. We should say: I don’t want you to feel like you are alone, maybe I can come to your place, or we can go somewhere else together
14.Everyone is coping with all kinds of problems, why not you
Depression is not something we choose, and when it happens, it makes people different from each other. We should say: You seem to be having a bad time, I just want you to know that I’m always there.
15. You’re strong, you’ll be fine
Depression doesn’t make people look and feel weaker and helpless. We should say: I believe in you, I’m sure you’ll get through it. I’m here for you through every difficult moment.
Companionship is the longest confession, the best promise is companionship, and the best care is companionship. You are not alone!