Recognizing oneself—Accepting oneself What comes to mind from the suicide of Lin Jiawen, a genius in history: How crucial is a child’s natural, free and independent growth, how crucial is the influence of parents on a child’s family of origin, how crucial is a person’s balanced physical-psychological-social development, how crucial is a person’s life, which is a life of learning homework, if any part is missing, or which part is not fully developed, one may become an unbalanced person. If any part is missing or not fully developed, one may become a person with unbalanced development and may have problems at a certain time and a certain point. I can’t help but think of the greatness and wonder of the “TIP” therapy created by Mr. Wang Weidong, and the “regrowth” therapy technique in it. Among the children we have seen, how many of them have lost their natural growth pattern, that is, the process of aberrant development, and if they do not receive timely intervention during this growth process, how many “gifted” children have gone the way of Lin Jiawen, and how many gifted youngsters, like Lin Jiawen, have been subjected to the same treatment. How many “gifted” children have gone the way of Lin Jiawen, and how many gifted teenagers and young adults like Lin Jiawen have suffered from a “mind” that no one else can understand, and how many of them have lost or never felt the “freedom” of the mind after being worn the “halo” of society? “They experience the creation of computerized and mechanized technical achievements, but never perceive the “beauty” of the world life, as if the feeling of joy is so “strange” to them, even though they have many Even though they have a lot of skills, they have never experienced or possessed the sweetness of skills because the real meaning of acquiring skills was lost when they received skills training as children. A series of painful and traumatic experiences, because, when I just played one wrong note, my mother would be mean and even beat me.” In the depths of a young mind, parents who lack wisdom plant the wrong link between “piano” and “pain” in the child’s mind, and what a strangulation it is. Another child once said that I know many skills, such as horseback riding, fencing, shooting, martial arts, etc. I seem to learn whatever I can, but I can’t feel the joy from these skills, I just think of them as skills, whenever I perform, as if I am completing a task, as if I am performing for others to see, as if I am a robot completing the program in the computer. Similarly, there was a time when I seemed to be in a numbness, not feeling happy, and not feeling pain, although I am currently very “good”, high social status, but I do not feel happy ……….. “ When I heard the inner voice of these children, as a psychiatrist, I don’t know what it’s like, but I’m also trying to help these children, in addition to the technical aspects of the doctor, but also from the supernatural ability to pray silently for them, praying that they can know that people are limited, human ability is also limited, although they have had a painful experience growing up, although their parents have hurt The vicious cycle of trauma and rejection is not an unchangeable problem. We may be surprised to find that even though someone has hurt us, there are still people who will accept us, love us, and even trust us. The healing of the wounds of friendship can be the strength to open ourselves up and accept ourselves even in the midst of all the hurtful experiences. We will find the emotional realization of how accepting God is because He loves us with infinite love, and in so doing, we find that as God accepts us, we also accept ourselves. We have to go back to our inner roots and revisit the wounded child in our hearts. Once we reject truth, beauty, goodness, family, community, friendship, and the infinite meaning of life, we will not feel the joy that is ours. What if we have a wounded heart, a lack of love in our childhood, or a heart that is often filled with resentment and anger? Our inner wounds lead to wounds in our relationships, causing people to isolate themselves from each other. Whenever we are hurt, we immediately withdraw to avoid being hit again; whenever we are deceived, we are distrustful and defensive of others; when we are attacked, we hold grudges and are unwilling to forgive. These pains make us feel disappointed, unpopular, and unloved by others, even cynical. The appealed feelings have a deep impact on our personality. We are created to have a mutual relationship with others, and we are supposed to love, to be loved, and to share love. However, when hurt and anger fill us, the balance between giving and receiving is disrupted, and these hidden pains and broken hearts become the cause of our constant discomfort and walls, because anger can kill us more than we can imagine. Our sense of security, joy, and pleasure is by love, not by works. The sorrowful, fearful, worried, nervous, resentful, unbalanced, confused child in us needs to be healed by the baptism of love, so that the barriers of self-defense in our lives can be removed and we can dare to face God’s unconditional acceptance of us, which can bring us deeper healing. When we can accept our traumas, these wounding experiences of ours become positive characteristics that make us see the special needs, the special valuable places in our lives. Here, I would like to say to everyone who comes to me that no matter who you are, what you are like, no matter what your ability, status, etc., Dr. Cheng will do his best to accept you, and in addition to his role as a doctor, will pray for you silently, praying that you will come out of the gloom and sorrow and pain and become a joyful, sunny, bold and confident member of society, and that although you will encounter all kinds of storms on the road of life, these are As long as you dare to face them, you are a great person, because you are the only one in this world, and God will never abandon you. God says: “Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. I am gentle and humble in heart; take my yoke upon you, and be like me; then you will find rest in your hearts. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”