1, do you make your child feel that he can not do anything, no one appreciates him. For example, keep telling him that he can’t study, he can’t look good, he can’t socialize, he can’t do housework, he’s sloppy, he’s careless, he makes his family suffer for him …… In short, he’s not good at anything. 2, whether you often take than he “line” people to stimulate him. For example, this kind of words should always hang on the mouth: “Look at people x x, never let parents worry!” This kind of words are the most powerful and destructive, is the trump card to destroy the child. 3. Do you make your child feel guilty. Parents shape themselves into the image of family sacrifice, which will make the child feel guilty. And a person with a sense of guilt often adopts a self-loathing approach to spend his life. Examples are as follows: often tell your child that you haven’t even seen a movie since you had him, that you are tired of worrying about him, and better yet, name specifically which disease in you is due to him. Or, if not to take care of him, they would have had a big career development. 4. Do you never sound kind when you talk to your child. Never use a consultative tone, be sure to make the volume reach 70 decibels or more, and be sure to use a commanding tone. Also use sarcastic Chinese phrases. For example, “You’re so stupid”, “You’re a jerk”, “I’ve never seen you so stupid”, “How did you get born such a thing”, etc. The Chinese phrase “you’re so stupid”, “you’re a jerk”, “I’ve never seen you so stupid”, “how did you get such a thing”, etc. 5, whether the child’s everything to be decided by you, did not give him a little freedom, his whereabouts you are closely watched. For example, if he has a diary, you must try to check it; if he has letters, you must review them. This creates in him the feeling that he is not a human being, that he is a puppet to be manipulated. A person who doubts that he is not a human being is never likely to be motivated. 6, have you ever angered your child? The unit encountered a bad thing, come back to find a reason to throw dog blood on the child. Whatever the matter is attributed to the child’s fault then lecture him and stop him from shedding tears. Doing so will hit the child’s self-esteem and enhance the child’s sense of inferiority, which can likewise cause him to not feel human. 7, Are you from the child’s infancy, he has to respond to what you want to give what you want. This way, when he grows up, he will take it for granted that everything is ready for me. 8, do you ridicule him when he speaks foul language. This will make his vocabulary will become more and more unseemly, and speak the words will be angry half to death. 9, do you never educate him on spiritual morality, let him mix it up until he reaches adulthood, and let him decide everything on his own. 10. Do you avoid telling your child that he has made a mistake, lest he sometimes feel guilty. This way when he goes out and steals something in the future, or is arrested for some other crime, he will feel that the whole world is against him and he becomes a victim instead. 11, do you put everything he throws around for him to clean up, never let the child do it himself, so that he does not get tired. In this way he will develop the habit of putting all the responsibility on others when things go wrong. 12, whether you are good or bad books and magazines, let them look at their own, do not care, not to interfere. And the home is cleaned up, dishes are also done thoroughly clean poison, but it does not care how much garbage in the child’s head. 13, will you often quarrel, bad words, simply do not care about the presence of children. This way, in the future, when the parents’ relationship breaks down and divorce, the child does not feel surprised. 14, do you, the child to use how much pocket money are given as usual, do not let yourself work to earn money, and do not tell him to save, why not let him and his parents back then suffer as much? 15, to his unreasonable requests in food, living, always tolerate, or in case he gets angry, anxious, it is not good. 16.Do you stand firmly on your child’s side when he clashes with neighbors, teachers or police, so that your child knows: those people are unfair to you. 17.When your child has made a big mistake, declare carefully: “This is a trivial matter, it is too big, right?” . 18.Make a fool of your child in public. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. From a psychological point of view, this can make a person fear of society and generate the idea of self-abasement. And a fear of society and self-abasement is very difficult to stand in society.