After the university entrance examination, some people will produce all kinds of unpleasant emotions, and even want to end the young life. Eliminate the negative psychology after the failure, in addition to the warm care of teachers and parents, the main thing is that the candidates themselves learn to adjust their psychology and get out of the psychological dilemma after the failure. (A) the main psychological reaction Anxiety: college entrance examination dropouts show mostly mostly acute anxiety reaction. Some of the candidates made too high an estimate of their own performance, the lack of adequate psychological preparation for the failure of the list, and thus after learning the news of the failure of the list of panic, feel very difficult, some people will also be accompanied by severe vegetative nervous system dysfunction. Depression: the vast majority of people who failed to get into the list will be painful and sad, disheartened, some people due to despair about the future, lost the courage and confidence in life. Others are thus delusional, self-loathing, self-blame in the abyss, can not extricate themselves. Jealousy: Some people with excessive self-consciousness, defective character and high self-evaluation will have a stronger psychological reaction when they see their classmates winning the gold medal, and some of them will have destructive words and behaviors. (B) Self-psychological regulation Learn to psychological catharsis: the pain and sorrow of failing the college entrance examination is suppressed in the bottom of your heart, which will only make you suffer from negative emotions for a long period of time. You might as well try to talk to your parents, elders, close friends, and even cry in front of them to alleviate the pain. You can also hide in a quiet and uninhabited place to talk to yourself, or write a letter to an old friend in a distant place, and send your worries away with the letter. Psychological compensation: In the adversity of the college entrance examination, the losers should be good at seeing favorable factors, and maintain an optimistic attitude towards life. In the face of setbacks, you can self-suggestion to reduce psychological pressure and regulate emotions. For example, in the face of other people’s ridicule, you can say to yourself: failure is the mother of success, there will be no brilliant achievements without experiencing difficulties. Enrich their lives: after experiencing the blow of the failure, the frustration of failure, helplessness and loneliness, will make people do not want to contact the outside world, closed door lost, all day long bitter. At this time, you may want to take the initiative to increase the interest of life, such as finding a job, do some chores or develop personal hobbies, from the trough of emotional depression out of the youthful vitality. Summarize the experience and then try to develop: After a little emotional stabilization, list in writing your own strengths, interests, hobbies, possible potential, as well as family conditions, possible social resources, and then choose and determine the direction of their future development and specific ways. Seek help from a psychiatrist: some of the students who have failed to get into the list are introverted, and the psychological crisis caused by the list is often difficult to free themselves, then it may be worthwhile to seek help from a psychiatrist, psychological and behavioral treatment, and if necessary, the use of medication. Parents of the candidates If their own children on the list, parents should give the correct psychological guidance to guide him out of the emotional trough of the list. First, parents should abandon the idea of “only to go to college to become a talent”, to help children establish “a red heart two preparations”, the list is not famous, there is a road under the feet, “the concept, in the help of children in the college entrance examination failed to maintain a positive mindset. Secondly, parents and relatives should create a positive mindset. Secondly, parents and relatives should create a good family atmosphere. If a child fails in the college entrance examination, he or she will have a strong sense of psychological frustration and will become very depressed. A good family atmosphere can help the child get through the emotional downturn. Thirdly, we should help our children to correctly analyze the reasons for their failure. Some parents know that the child’s learning ability is poor, the foundation is weak, not to force him to “not to stop”, which led to the child again and again failed, a serious setback in self-confidence. There are also parents sarcastic, sarcastic children. In this case, the child is very easy to degenerate or have thoughts of suicide.