When she entered high school, she became very close to a female classmate she knew in junior high school in an unfamiliar environment. The two of them often studied and ate together, and over time, their classmates said they were gay. When people said more, she began to wonder if she was really gay, and she was very afraid, but she didn’t dare to tell her parents. Aqian is in his second year of high school, he is a key high school, from the first year of high school to live in school, the same dormitory Kun not only good in studies, all aspects are very good, Aqian and his relationship is very good. A few days after the start of this semester, Kun took a few days off from class because of something at home. Aqian suddenly felt very uncomfortable, and could not even sleep well at night, always thinking about Kun, just like lovers miss each other in movies. The wrong perception teenagers: often and same-sex classmates, friends inseparable, often focus on same-sex classmates, friends, like to see photos of same-sex celebrities, girls do not like to dress up, eat snacks, gossip, pampering, etc. by classmates called “man-child”, boys do not like sports and other boy hobbies, these are homosexual. Homosexuality is humiliating and is laughed at. Parents: If your child and a same-sex partner are playing together every day, hugging each other or playing with each other’s genitals, this is homosexuality, and this is a big deal, so you don’t know what to do or criticize your child severely. The truth is that before the age of 18, the sexual orientation of adolescents is unstable and they have a preference for both the opposite sex and the same sex. Therefore, the phenomenon of same-sex attachment is normal for secondary school students, and most of them are not really “homosexual”, but a kind of deformation release after the suppression of the vigorous sexual physiological activities during the growth and development period. At this stage, many teenage boys and girls show sexual psychology or sexual behavior that deviates from their own gender, which may be growing up, the love that is budding in the heart can not be realized in the interaction with the opposite sex, so in the friendship with a good friend of the same sex to imitate and role-play, or because of poor independence, heavy dependence, poor interpersonal skills, will be psychologically overdependent on same-sex partners, and therefore giving themselves the illusion of homosexuality. If parents overly suppress their children’s interaction with the opposite sex, so that the child’s normal emotional catharsis can not be satisfied, it is easy to look for the same sex to vent. Expert advice: Parents should not neglect to provide their children with opportunities to interact with the opposite sex, because only in these interactions can they complete the identification of their gender roles, the establishment of their sexual orientation, otherwise, the child is likely to put the desire to interact with the opposite sex on the same sex, imitating the relationship between the opposite sex to role-play. Help children overcome their inferiority complex in front of same-sex classmates. Encourage them to see themselves and evaluate themselves from more perspectives to build self-confidence and allow them to identify with their gender roles. If you find that your child has homosexual tendencies, such as preferring to be with the same sex only and having an obvious aversion to the opposite sex, don’t rashly stop or lash out. Your child is in pain and conflict at this time and needs someone to care and guide him/her the most, and rough interference will only make your child distrust you and stay away from you. Parents should provide a safe space for their children and listen to their feelings more often. What teenagers need to do: to consciously exercise their independence, to strengthen their interactions with the opposite sex, and to try to overcome the habit of often using the same sex to stimulate their sexual excitement.