Generally children will face great pressure at these three critical ages, because this is the period when they just start school or jump into another learning stage, so parents should pay more attention to whether their children have issued a distress signal to bear the pressure, and help them to overcome the pressure. Dr. Cai Yiming, director of the Child Psychology Clinic at the Singapore Health Institute, pointed out that 6-year-olds who have just entered elementary school may be fearful because they must face a new learning environment; 12-year-olds who are in their adolescence, in addition to facing the pressure of the P6 exam, will also feel anxious and doubtful because of physiological changes, and the pressure they are under is even more significant; and 16-year-olds who have to cope with Form 4 The 16-year-olds are likely to feel nervous because they have to deal with the important examination of S4. Although their emotions are affected by these external factors, most children do not know how to ask for help from their parents or teachers, or they may even ask their problems, but their parents misinterpret them as lazy or lying, which leads to a difficult situation where the child is not understood. Records from the Child Psychology Clinic at the Health Center show that only about 4% of all cases that come to the clinic are really mental illnesses. The rest of the children are growing up with mental, physical and behavioral inability to make adjustments, resulting in mental stress and abnormal behavior. A child who has a sudden change in behavior or mood is probably sending “distress signals” to those around him or her, hoping to get the attention and help of parents or other adults to get rid of the stress. Some of these “distress signals” include: sudden refusal to go to school, depression, agitation, rough and violent, or constant complaints of pain or discomfort in a body part. Parents have an important role to play in helping their children’s stressors in a timely and effective manner. Parents must first recognize their child’s cry for help, and then trace and eliminate the source of his stress. “As a parent, you must first strengthen your relationship with your child, otherwise you will not be able to recognize the symptoms of your child’s frustration, even if your child is really under pressure and you rarely communicate with him.”