In daily life, when you are faced with psychological stress, do you numb yourself with frantic work or play, or drown in sadness, or calmly deal with the problem and then put it behind you? The first two scenarios are more likely to occur in most people’s reaction, while for the third is the heart is not enough. In fact, it is not difficult to deal with psychological stress calmly, those who are not surprised in front of the crisis and remain calm are not born with this ability, they are gradually learned in life. Here are a few self-psychological regulation methods that can somewhat reduce the stress of life. First of all, learn to identify the signs of tension in the heart, tension in the heart is usually manifested in both physical and behavioral changes, the following are some common signs of psychological stress, you can self-identify: 1. no appetite or excessive appetite; 2. rapid heartbeat; 3. headache or muscle tension in the back of the neck; difficult to sleep or wake up in the middle of the night; 5. frequent nightmares; 6. 8. smoking or drinking too much alcohol; 9. difficulty concentrating; 10. arguing with family members and colleagues over trivial matters. If you have more than two of the above signs, it means that you may be in a state of tension. The next step is to learn how to regulate yourself. Sometimes the stress in our lives does not come from the difficulties we get into in life, but from the reactions we take to these life experiences. You can’t control the blows that life throws at you, but you can control your attitude toward them. So when you are faced with psychological stress, you must do the following: 1. Do not let the stress occupy your mind and agree that the objective existence of events is inevitable; 2. Staying optimistic is the key to controlling psychological stress, do not get into the habit of solving problems with negative thinking, and think of the good things when things happen. Gain insight into your own mind, take some time for yourself, listen to yourself, think calmly, and try to add some positive thinking to your negative emotions. Try to create an inner balance. Psychologists believe that staying calm is the best way to prevent mental loss of control. And 20 minutes of cross-legged meditation or self-relaxation every morning or evening can create a sense of inner balance. This kind of meditation can lower blood pressure and reduce anxiety by eliminating distractions. One study showed that people who were overly anxious and irritable spent 10 minutes a day in meditation, focusing on attention to do relaxation exercises, so that their heartbeat gradually became slower and their muscles gradually relaxed. 10 weeks later, their heart tension were reduced to some extent. In addition, massage is also very effective in reducing the sense of stress. Know how to balance their lives. Many lesbians complain that “they always have not enough time, things are always done.” This anxiety and feeling of being stressed has become part of their lives for many people. Those who are exhausted by work or life do not know the true meaning of life. To balance your life you should try to think differently and take time to look back at the things that make you happy. When you are stressed out about trivial things, worrying is not going to help. This is the time to think of a way to solve this obsession, and the most effective way is to write everything down. Get up 10 minutes early every day and write down exactly how you feel, without revising it afterwards and without having to reread it. After a while when you have expressed all your worries, you will find that you are clear-headed and better able to deal with them. This method of self-talk can help you solve a lot of problems. Why don’t you try it!