Just when everyone was shouting loneliness, Jia Junpeng’s mom woke up these lonely diving hearts. Even if this started as an organized and premeditated hype by a small group of people, the end result is undeniable that it turned into a large-scale mass event – more than 97% of the replies were just ordinary netizens who didn’t know the truth. Why just a dozen words can be exchanged for hundreds of thousands of millions of attention or more? Because they are not posting back, is lonely. Lonely people like to ramble, like to reminisce about the years. The lonely heart is always calm and quiet, a small stone can stir up thousands of ripples. “Mom is calling you home for dinner” always feels like it comes from a familiar childish voice. This voice is like a thread that picks up the small, trivial things of childhood. There are two roles in these things, one is a small friend, the other is the mother. Now, you may not have talked to your mom about your friends for years, and you go to your friends to discuss anything. But, do you remember? When you are not happy with your friends as a child, you often look for your mother to cry. There is no child who is not attached to his or her mother, but when they grow up, there are people who “marry their wives and forget their mothers. The child’s attachment to the mother is a nature, this nature is not unique to humans. Just like a duckling takes the first person it sees when it first comes out of its eggshell as its mother, children also “call their mothers when they have milk to eat”. I once heard a child raised intergenerationally say, “My grandmother is my mother.” If a newborn monkey is given two mothers to choose from, one is a cold wire mother with milk and the other is a plush toy monkey mother without milk, which one will the monkey choose? He prefers his mommy – he only goes to his “wire mommy” when he is drinking milk, and snuggles up to his “plush mommy” all the other times. He likes the soft and warm feeling of his mother more than food. However, the little monkey likes this feeling just because it is comfortable, but it does not know that the mother’s touch plays an irreplaceable role in its growth. Scientists found that if the newborn mice and mothers of white mice flesh and bone separation, despite giving the mice good food and water, but than other mice growing up in the mother’s side of the development of retardation, resistance is also worse. Interestingly, the mice can also develop well if they imitate their mother with a hairbrush. Likewise, humans, who are much more advanced than other animals, are not allowed to live without their mothers, and children deprived of their mothers’ touch are smaller than others. If the missing caress is compensated in time, the child can catch up quickly with a faster pace than its peers. However, the height can catch up, the psychological development can not be seen to compensate for the problem. Not all mothers under the sun are the same, which leads to not all mother-child relationships under the sun are the same either. Those mothers who pay more attention to their children and meet their needs appropriately can bring more security to their children, so that small children always take their mothers as a harbor to rely on, from which they can explore the world around them. They will be especially happy every time they see their mothers. Not only will they be able to share their toys with their little ones, but they won’t always be angry with their mom for calling them home for dinner. Some mothers do not always respond to their children’s needs in a timely manner, and such children do not react particularly when they see their mothers as they would to a stranger. Some children may even get angry or upset at the sight of their mothers because their mothers completely ignore them or do not act like a mother at all. The mother is the first person the child knows in the world, so the mother-child relationship also influences the child’s future relationships with others, especially lovers. What kind of world is it in our eyes, safe or uncontrollable? For those children whose parents are always away and left alone in their hometowns, life is missing a harbor to lean on. When playing outside, there is no mother to shout for dinner; there is no reliable listener for aggression; there is no mother’s timely praise for the first test. You can think of such children as early adopters, but such children are not happy. They can’t embrace the world because it’s hard to have love to share with others, or they can’t muster up the courage because they are not confident and afraid that the world will run away from their embrace. Mom has not given them a reason to trust the world, and relationships are hard for them to feel secure. Everyone’s first object of attachment is usually mom, but anyone can play the role of mom as long as they have love in their heart. On the whole, there is no particular difference between children in single-parent families who live with their fathers and those who live with their mothers. As they get older, the object of attachment changes, with friends and lovers replacing the role of mom more often. At this point, if there is no one else in our lives to play this role, loneliness will come. Loneliness is no longer the monopoly of a certain type of people, it is more contagious than any virus. From being a self-proclaimed “geek” to announcing one’s loneliness to everyone, it is just a hint for others to come and shout at one’s self to go out and play. This method does not work very well, so they simply use their mothers to express it politely. In Japan, many people now put their loneliness on dolls, older young people buy a variety of cartoon pillows to do their own love object, and even inseparable, shopping, watching movies, and the same as real people. It may be a little sad to think about this scene, but it is also a revelation. Occasionally play house, let yourself temporarily escape from the pressure of reality, back to childhood, back to mom, and perhaps forget all your worries. When we are lonely and tapping down our loneliness on the cold screen, we always forget that there is a person who is silently watching over us. This person is mom.