1, psychotherapists are people who solve problems for people Many people think that psychotherapists are people who specialize in solving psychological problems for people, such expectations, is certainly to fall short. If an unemployed person wants to find a job, a lost love wants to regain love, a husband having an affair comes around, anxious parents want to find their runaway child …… these counselors must not be able to do. Because the psychotherapist’s main job is in helping the case to understand itself, for example, why can’t you find a job? Why did you fall out of love? Why is your husband having an affair? Why did your child run away from home? And how can you work to realize your potential, to better handle your problems, to make the best choices and decisions for yourself, and to live the life you want to live. Those mythical stories, those superhuman-like reign, the counselor can not do it anyway. 2, a good psychotherapy, see once effective Psychotherapy is different from the general drug treatment, psychotherapy is rarely seen once effective. When people turn to psychotherapy, they usually have psychological problems that have developed over the years, and it takes a long time to effectively improve these problems. Generally speaking, counselors will develop a counseling plan for each individual counselor. General psychological confusion, 1-3 times with post-modern therapy can be effective, while some serious psychological problems, it takes about 4-10 times, depending on the effectiveness of the treatment. 3, counseling is chatting Talking is a major way of counseling, but counseling is different from chatting in the general sense. Real counseling is not only verbal communication, but also many psychological adjustment techniques, such as behavioral training and psychoanalysis. Psychological counseling uses the professional theoretical knowledge of psychology, as well as sociology and medicine, and has a strict scientific theoretical system and operating procedures, so as to achieve the purpose of solving psychological problems, helping people to relieve psychological crisis and promoting personality development. This is completely different from friends chat, family and friends of persuasion and comfort, teachers of education, leadership of ideological and political work. 4.Psychological problems are a physical disease Treating psychological disorders as a physical disease deviates from the track of real psychological counseling. In fact, the real psychological problems are no need for drugs, for two reasons: First, the psychological disorders are temporary inability of the mind to face the pressure caused by the mind regulating dysfunction, heart disease or rely on psychological counseling to regulate. The second is not to solve the psychological problems, only from the emotional and physical symptoms to start taking medication to regulate, is to treat the surface not the root cause, after the improvement, a little wind, soon relapse, and the more relapse more serious. 5, anyone can be a psychological counselor According to the requirements of developed countries, a qualified wholly-owned psychological counselor should basically have a doctorate in psychology, medicine, after a rigorous internship training, with a certain amount of practical experience, through the certification qualification examination, under the guidance of a superior supervisor to practice alone. China has not yet reached the strict requirements of developed countries, but it is also necessary to have professional qualifications as well as psychological theory and technical quality of psychological counseling, psychological counselors should undergo rigorous training and assessment, and obtain professional qualifications before taking up the job. 6, I have good psychological quality, can self-regulation of psychological problems, no need for psychological counseling Many seekers in the early stages of psychological problems, always hope that their own self-adjustment, and finally lead to more and more serious mental illness, not only that the difficulty of treatment and personal financial expenses, but also let themselves suffer more and more pain. As the saying goes: “The person involved is confused, the onlooker is clear”. From the perspective of a bystander, the counselor helps the visitor to clarify his or her thinking and recognize the root cause of the problem, which is a short and effective way to help the visitor to grow spiritually.