The road of life is not all paved with flowers, accompanied by applause, but will suffer from a variety of unsatisfactory, unsatisfactory exams, setbacks in the promotion at work, lost love, the breakup of marriage, the death of relatives, etc., when the reality and expectations do not reach unity, it is easy to occur psychological problems. So, how to get out of these psychological shadows? (1) find someone to talk to: do not let the torment you feel suffocated in the heart, hurry to find one of your most trusted friends and relatives, your worries, your uncertainty, your pain to pour out, even if your friends and relatives in addition to words of comfort, and can not help you out of a substantial way, you will also have a sense of relief. (2) change the perspective, learn to move: when under psychological pressure, it may be worthwhile to think in a different way, such as when you are sad about their marriage failure, think about your healthy body, than the disabled is how lucky, remember: God is fair, when he closed a door for you, will certainly open a window for you. (3) Do the worst: If your immediate situation is not good, do not be bewildered, do not escape, try to think of the worst ending, do the worst, you will find that, in fact, these immediate unsatisfactory compared to the worst ending should not be nothing, there is a big gap. (4) crazy sports: people often say: limbs simple mind, is not without reason, people in the physical extremely tired and exhausted, will not think about it again. So, when your inner world is suffering from distress, you may want to go crazy sports. In addition, you can listen to music, parties or even shopping and other ways that suit you to promote the discharge of depression in the heart. You must have an objective evaluation of yourself, and do not set your goals too high. Learn to de-stress yourself and treat people and things with a calm mind. If you do these things, I believe that those bad events for you to speak only in the blink of an eye.