The first time the pain is unbearable, not only to spoil the atmosphere, so that the quality of sex life is greatly reduced, but also affect the relationship between the two sides. So, what should I do for the first pain? No need to be overly nervous and fearful, mastering the right approach is the key! 1, strengthen the learning of sexual knowledge, eliminate the fear of improper sexual position, the lack of knowledge of sex caused by the fear of psychology will often lead to the first pain. Therefore, both men and women should actively learn about sex before having sex for the first time, and then through continuous attempts, painful intercourse will slowly be relieved. 2, make full psychological preparation, relax and avoid mental tension Both sides must make full psychological preparation when having sex for the first time, communicate frankly, in-depth emotional communication can make each other relaxed and avoid too much tension. The high level of tension in women can lead to vaginal spasms, which can lead to pain and no way to continue sexual life. 3, do a good job of “foreplay” preparation, increase lubrication women vaginal secretion is low, vaginal dryness, can also lead to the first pain. You can stimulate sexual excitement by kissing, stroking the clitoris and nipples and other sexually sensitive parts to stimulate the flow of secretion, or use some lubricant if necessary. In short, when the vagina is fully moistened before entering, you will not feel too much pain. 4, the action should be gentle, the strength should be moderate The first time, improper force can also cause pain. Women will have different degrees of pain during their first sexual encounter. The male partner should try not to blindly thrust hard to avoid hurting the woman’s vagina. The action must be gentle and moderate in strength. It is recommended to keep trying to enter the female vagina gradually and gradually to avoid painful intercourse to some extent. 5, active treatment of painful intercourse caused by genital diseases, chronic diseases, etc. If a woman’s hymen is thicker, the vaginal opening is smaller, or tighter, etc., the pain that occurs at the first time is often more difficult to bear. In addition, some women have congenital genital abnormalities (such as hymenal atresia, vaginal mediastinum, etc.) or acquired diseases (such as vaginitis, chronic pelvic inflammatory disease, cystitis, etc.), which can also cause first time pain, and this condition should also be seen by the gynecology department of a regular hospital in time. As long as the above conditions are treated, the symptoms of painful intercourse can be cured on their own. The first pain in men is most often caused by circumcision, narrow foreskin opening, foreskin can not be turned up, etc., in sexual life will appear foreskin embedded in the glans surface of the penis, resulting in painful symptoms during sexual intercourse. If necessary, a visit to the urology department is required to check for prepuce or glansitis. References: [1] Chen, C., Painful intercourse for women. Family Medicine (on),2021:46. [2]Wang P,Li Yang X. Clinical investigation and countermeasure analysis of 112 cases of painful intercourse in women. Chinese sex science,2017,26(10):63-65.