For couples, both men and women are looking forward to the first time, but always hear people say “the first time” too painful and discouraged, want to communicate in depth, but afraid of too much pain. In fact, not everyone’s first time will be very painful, no pain, a little pain is also a lot of people, of course, some people do produce more intense pain, this pain generally lasts 1-2 minutes, both sides gradually into a good place after the pain will not be. This pain actually varies from person to person, some people are very painful for the first time, some will be painful for a few days, some people will not be painful at all, the pain is associated with many factors. 1. Individual’s body type: Everyone has a different level of pain acceptance, and the size of the vaginal opening and vagina also varies. Although women’s vaginas have a certain degree of elasticity, a slightly large “ding” can still make the vagina feel uncomfortable, especially the first time “snapping”, the vaginal opening is more narrow, if the male action is too coarse at the moment, it will cause the vaginal opening, vaginal wall tears The pain will be caused by the vaginal opening and the vaginal wall. 2. Hymen: The main reason why it hurts for the first time is the vaginal flap, which is often referred to as the hymen, which is torn and causes pain. For women who have a hymen, the hymen is not yet ruptured, and the male “dingus” enters and causes the hymen to rupture. The hymen has tiny blood vessels and nerves, and the rupture will cause slight pain and a small amount of vaginal bleeding. 3. technical problems: rough foreplay, not in place lubrication, shallow theoretical knowledge will produce strong friction pain, not only for girls, men may also feel pain, so although the first time we are new to the road, than the old driver light luxury, but the theoretical knowledge should be enough reserves! 4. own emotions: vaginal cramps are involuntary violent and continuous contractions of the vagina and pelvic floor muscle system during lovemaking, which produce pain and uncomfortable feelings in women when carrying out or after carrying out, its mostly related to psychological factors, most women will feel very nervous in the first time, unable to relax themselves, but the tighter the more pain, due to excessive mental tension, too much pressure, leading to dryness in the vagina, or Most women feel very nervous the first time and can’t relax. The first time is indeed wonderful, and facing sex squarely, I hope we can all enjoy the process of loving and being loved, the pleasure of the moment and the journey of exploring the wonders of both sexes. References: [1] Yan Hongli. The fallacy that the first night must be painful – the culprit of sexual fear [J]. China Sex Science,2012,21(03):64.