1, cognitive therapy Three learnings: learn to look for the merits of others; learn to be grateful for the plight; learn to understand the reality, what exists is reasonable. Four don’ts: Don’t punish yourself with your own mistakes; Don’t punish others with your own mistakes; Don’t punish yourself with others’ mistakes; Don’t punish others with others’ mistakes. Two Dharma: For your own mistakes – repentance, not two over; for the mistakes of others – forgiveness, gratitude. 2. Behavioral therapy Cathartic method: direct venting: crying, shouting, slamming instruments; channeling and dispersing: confiding, psychological counseling. Relaxation training: qigong, laughing and so on. Empathy: Cultivate hobbies, such as reading, sports, chess, calligraphy and painting, opera, fishing, flower gardening, pet raising, traveling, dressing up, etc. Music is one of the best ways to empathize. Music is one of the best ways of empathy.