You can make a cocoon, you will be able to break the cocoon into a butterfly.
An unexamined life is not worth living. Socrates
Symptoms are just a way of defending a person against internal and external pain. Be patient until the seed breaks the ground. Every person who wants to truly know himself needs to pay the appropriate price.
I. Symptoms don’t matter
Symptoms are just a way of defending a person against internal and external suffering. (Freud)
A symptom is a label, a voucher that hospitals use to prescribe medication, to give you a depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, phobia, or something like that, so that you can use the right medication for the right condition, a convenient means for doctors.
People are very complex and the description of one symptom does not sum up a person at all. The symptoms themselves are only the outward manifestation of a person’s inner pain and subconscious conflicts. For counseling, symptoms can be basically ignored, but the main thing is to explore the reasons behind the symptoms, how your problems came about, what kind of psychological trauma you have suffered, what is the influence of your family of origin from 0-6 years old on you, why you use this defense to protect yourself, how to repair the deep inner trauma and form These are the most basic categories that need to be explored in counseling, not depression with the label of depression, which is mental violence and chains to the visitor, so the first step in counseling is often de-labeling: you are not sick, you are not depressed, let’s work together to see what is hidden behind the problem, why you need this state and make you so miserable.
There is a joke in the counseling profession: “Dysthymia (hysteria) is a pit into which anything can be thrown; neurosis is a pit into which anything can be thrown; depression is a pit into which anything can be thrown; borderline personality is a pit into which anything can be thrown.” According to the broken window theory, symptoms are like a garbage can into which the public adds all kinds of unacceptable projections, leading to an increasingly complex concept of symptomatology.
In this article, we need a word to express, so we use “depression” to express the meaning, but not to emphasize depression, this depression, not depression, the name depression only.
Second, depression is not terrible
Nowadays, many people in society are terrorizing psychological problems and demonizing depression, and when they hear the word depression, it is as if they have a terminal illness, and this person will commit suicide and die, and immediately avoid it, which is total bullshit!
Depression so-called research on the probability of suicide is actually lower than the probability of a plane crash, but it is exaggerated to the point that everyone will commit suicide as well, and very often this propaganda and rhetoric itself will have a suggestive and inducing effect. Of course, it also has to do with the social news media propaganda. The news media seeks attention, what celebrity has depression and commits suicide, reporting individual cases as news and hypnotically linking depression and suicide in an exaggerated way, leading to misunderstanding by the public.
This influence makes the uninformed people to the three words depression to talk about the tiger, the so-called depressed people tremble, afraid that they say a word wrong, the other party will be depressed suicide, like, sometimes such a reaction, in fact, is an additional psychological harm to each other.
”Depression is not terrible, it is just an outward manifestation of a subconscious psychological trauma state, from the fundamental level, we all have psychological problems, only that some people hide it well, some people do not realize it, some people suppress it well, some people do not know it, some people show it. From this level, we are all equal. Because we all have problems in our families of origin, we all have a bloody history of trauma. So “depression” is not scary, it is just a way of presenting psychological problems and an opportunity for psychological growth. Don’t be afraid of “depression”, don’t talk about “depression”, don’t treat “depression” as a big deal, because “depression “There is nothing to be afraid of, because it is the best opportunity for people to really grow, it is a crisis, it is the opportunity in danger.
Third, the three processes of depression One: reflecting on the cocooning triggered by introspection, “those who look outward are dreaming, those who look inward are awake” – Jung. In Jung’s words, “depression” is a form of inward reflection, a state of wakefulness accompanied by suffering. Expansion and contraction are the two basic states of the human mind.
Depression can be said to be one of the highest forms of introspection in life. It can be said that a certain part of human beings has a strong ability to experience and feel, and when many people are numb and muddled, this part of people already feel the pain and depression deeply, and their introspection ability makes them start to think and find their own problems and relationship problems. They find that they have problems, problems in their relationships, problems in society, problems in the world, so they start to suffer, start to suffer, start to contract, start to struggle, start to search, start to seek, start to understand and comprehend the inner meaning. Only those who are truly wise and awake have the opportunity to experience depression.
Those who live in dreams all day, who never think, who do not look inward at themselves will not experience the meaning of depression. “The unexamined life is not worth living.” So said Socrates. When you find yourself living in a dream, it is easy to develop a state of desperate depression. The state of depression can be said to exist in many people, so think back carefully about your own life trajectory and experiences.
When you think about the meaning of life, when you are dissatisfied with the reality of life, when you are dissatisfied with yourself, when you start to look at your inner self, when you cannot cope with the external environment, when you feel powerless, when you are very afraid, when you find that relationships are false and hypocritical, when you find that the so-called family and friendships are not so reliable, when you find that you end up in death no matter how you struggle. When you find that everything is meaningless, when you because you found out a lot of truth.
So you will fall into a state of painful depression, so that you unconsciously think, to pursue, to discover the meaninglessness of real life, the meaninglessness of life, the meaninglessness of the state of life, the meaninglessness of the pursuit, more and more disappointed, disappointed in yourself, disappointed in life, disappointed in life, thus losing confidence in life, confidence in yourself, confidence in life, can not be interested in anything, feel Nothing has any meaning, there is no need to do, the real world of life is very fake, not what you really want, so take a contraction and give up the state, give up self, give up life, wrap yourself up tightly, become a “cocoon”! The soul is wrapped tightly, breeding new life.
IV: Depression Process II: Contemplation in the dark (cocoon breeding)
When the meaning of everything is uncertain, and life and death are one, how can I face my life if the truth and the truth are like this? This is the question that one ponders in the cocoon of torment and struggle. As the old saying goes, “To the place of death then life, to the place of death then existence.”
Everyone needs to find their own answers.
Only the “original me” (mask and disguise) to see clearly, the original pursuit of the false big empty wrong things clear, face the original life has no meaning, everyone will die, no one is the center of the world, it is possible to slowly unload the heavy burden and baggage, solid forward. Because your psyche is very tired and tight, already can’t breathe, need to breathe real fresh air, need to breathe, because you used to oppress your inner soul too much, your inner wisdom tells you, this will not work, the original way of life is problematic, this will really ruin yourself, so take a wise way to protect and grow yourself, so to speak, depression is the inner The wisdom of the arrangement, one of the best arrangements.
The vast majority of wise men, philosophers, writers and artists in human history were once depressed, not because they wanted to pursue fashion and popular depression, because depression and contemplation are the best and most effective way to make people think internally and return to their hearts, which is also a necessary stage, “only pain can awaken the soul”. Only through the state of “cocooning” and sublimation of “butterfly”, people can truly grow and establish a real connection with their inner subconscious, and recognize why I am the way I am, so that they can find the meaning of their individual life and become a complete self.
V. Depression process 3: breaking the cocoon into a butterfly
In the cocoon of continuous thinking and struggling, each person who finally thinks of meaning from meaninglessness will slowly build their own solid base of life, and finally break the cocoon into a butterfly.
The process from “becoming a chrysalis” to “turning into a butterfly” is often very painful, you are facing the suffering of the whole world, the suffering of the times and society, the suffering of the family, and the suffering of the individual situation and internal suffering, so depressed people are sharp, strong, brave and wise, but also struggling, contradictory, fragile and tangled.
I myself once walked through such years, when I first started college, I have been thinking about “who I am”, “what is the meaning of life”, “why do people live”, read a lot of I read a lot of philosophy books and psychology books, but did not find the answer, always struggling and tangled, and finally found that everything is meaningless, because no matter what you do, people will die, everything is empty, I fell into a deep despair and pain, at that time the sky is dark, gloomy, desperate, because there is no meaning, will always die, what to do and what not to do is no different, several times wandering in the riverside want to end life.
In the painful process, after a long period of learning and thinking, I realized the word “live” and came out of it. I can deeply feel the pain and struggle, and also experience the soul’s resistance to break free from the rope, the struggle of the soul that is eager to fly and to be free. When breaking through the barriers and bonds, the beauty of heaven and earth, the width of the world, the beauty of the soul, is all in front of me.
For Aso, who had walked through these years, everything is indeed meaningless. Life lies in one’s own choice, not to pursue meaning, but to create one’s own meaning in this world. I deeply appreciate Sartre’s saying that existence precedes essence, that my life (existence) is self-created, that my essence is self-created by my life, not by fate, and that I am responsible for every choice I make.
Sixth, the hardship, the jade is the best
Jung said: Before the seed breaks the ground, please wait patiently.
Every person who wants to really know himself needs to pay the corresponding price.
Drugs can not solve the psychological problems, moreover, they can not solve the problem of inner meaning, nor can they solve the relationship problems, psychological problems need to start from the psychological level.
Nowadays, most of the methods of treating depression use medication, but seldom help the real growth of the heart, the medicine of the heart needs the medicine of the heart, the psychological problems need to be solved by psychological methods, the cry of the soul needs the resonance of the soul, people who cannot understand the meaning of depression, it is difficult to help the “depressed” visitors, counselors sometimes The counselor is sometimes just a “lamplighter” to light up the path deep in the heart, the road ahead is vast, the road is long, accompanying these brave and wise people, walking through the swamp and darkness of life together, welcoming the rebirth and nirvana of the heart, completing the new integration, facing a different world. Although this time may be very difficult, may be very winding, may have a lot of changes and accidents, let us go forward together hand in hand. “Although a thousand panning hard, blowing all the yellow sand to gold.”
The sun always shines after the storm, only after the rebirth of the fire, in order to phoenix nirvana. This process is long, slowly, in the cocoon need time to think experience feelings, struggle torment polishing, in the pain of precipitation, in the torment of awareness, and constantly deeper understanding of themselves, clear inner subconscious prompting, face their own cause and effect to repent, in the cocoon to grow and develop, until the day of the cocoon into a butterfly – this is the meaning of depression.