After a tense wait, the results of the college entrance examination have been released recently. Some candidates, due to unsatisfactory scores, may lose with their preferred institutions of higher learning, and therefore feel frustrated and helpless, at this time, as parents, how to accompany their children to face the reality of drum up the sails of life? This is a thorny issue that many families encounter every year when the holidays come. Recently, after some investigation, the reporter consulted a psychologist on this issue. The first time I saw this, I had to go to the university, and I had to go to the university. “The first and second models of the test, the results are still ranked in the city’s top, as usual play should be able to test on the 1A. I don’t know why, but the test smashed …… hey!” The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public. The parents of Xiao Zeng told reporters that their daughter’s study has been very serious, stable performance, but I do not know whether the test is too nervous or other reasons on the test smashed. These days, every day in addition to meal time, Xiao Zeng are hiding inside the room unwilling to come out, they are very worried about her. “We told her, since the results are such as to accept it, now to consider the future of the university should be how to struggle, but she just can not listen to it, move to cry, we do not know what to do.” The stressful college entrance exams and secondary school exams are finally over, and the physically and mentally exhausted students and parents are finally relieved. However, with the release of the high school and middle school exams, some people are happy and some are worried in the face of their own results. Some students think they did not do well in the exam, all day long, heavy hearted, bored at home not to go out, full of confusion about the future …… face of the unsatisfactory test results, candidates should be rational how to treat? The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are getting into. “I remember being in a really bad mood, not saying anything at home, and thinking only about going back to school.” Wang told reporters that her family did not blame her, but her heart always seems to have a knot that can not be untied. “Finally, or my most respected language teacher’s words to revive me, he said ‘you will always be my pride, I believe that you can be successful everywhere’.” A simple phrase that gave Xiao Wang back his confidence and began to actively plan his college life. “You have to keep fighting in life, so why stop at a certain point?” ”At that time, after the exam failed, just very much want to go back to repeat.” Miss Chen is a high school graduate of the Class of ’05, who could have gotten into 1A, but dropped herself down to the 2A line by playing poorly. “Due to the family’s financial constraints, they can only accept the reality of going to a university that is not their preferred study.” Miss Chen told reporters that for a long time in her life she could not get rid of the shadow of defeat, but she set herself a goal to get a master’s degree in the future to regain face. Although the original dream did not come true, and the study of law she successfully passed the national judicial examination in September last year, and now works in a well-known law firm in Shantou, as a practicing lawyer. “Since it has not been satisfactory, a cut slower than the same group of people themselves, it is only their own efforts to step up, more diligent than others, in order to catch up with them.” Miss Chen said that falling down is not terrible, it is important to know how to stand up. Psychologists to let the child know that his family will always support him full of expectation to get good results, but the reality is not ideal, so afraid to go out, afraid to meet acquaintances, afraid to be asked how the test, there is always a psychological hurdle to cross. What should this group of candidates do? Shantou University Mental Health Center physician Zhang Yinnan told reporters that every year after the announcement of the high school entrance examination scores, there will be high school candidates because of the test is not ideal, or because their expectations are too high and carry the burden of thought, appearing irritable, depressed mood, especially in the face of family or social comment is more trouble, and even negative anorexia. Dr. Zhang believes that the psychological stress of candidates who lost the exam is caused by emotional tension fluctuations, and proper catharsis has the effect of relieving mental stress. This part of the student can find friends and relatives to pour out their heart’s worries, or cry a bit, or by writing diary, read aloud, sing aloud, turn on the stereo to vent the heart’s bitterness. Dr. Zhang reminded everyone that no matter how well the child did on the test, should not blame and reproach, because it is all meaningless. People’s life, adversity is a common thing, do not need to hang your head, should regroup, with a strong will and confidence out of adversity. Parents should not say negative things like “now you may not be able to find a good job after graduating from college, if you don’t go to a good college, it will be more difficult to find a job”, but give the candidates psychological encouragement and support. “Parents should first adjust their own mindset, the correct understanding of the examination, in order to create a relaxed and harmonious family atmosphere. At the same time, parents should understand that the midterm or college entrance exam is not the most important thing in the candidate’s life, and it will not be the last exam in the candidate’s life. Parents should educate their children, maintain a good mindset, and actively deal with their future studies, work and life.” Dr. Zhang suggests that exercise is a good way to relieve tension, and families who have the conditions may want to let their children go on trips to blend in with nature and completely relax themselves. Give your child the confidence and courage to move forward. In short, let your children know that their families are their constant supporters!