It is a parent’s greatest wish that their child will succeed. A lot of parents in order to children on the road to growth without detours, willing to pay a lot of effort. Thus, we have seen a lot of such parents: Shot one; Mr. Wu is a police officer, often see the darkest and ugliest side of society, after the birth of his son, in order to make his son’s growth uncontaminated, the child’s every day activities have to be closely observed. Never dare to let the child and other children together, for fear of being brought down by other children. The child is in his third year of junior high school and has never gone out alone or taken the bus. Children in the last six months, the temper began to become more and more violent, often for small things to the family pain in the hands, violent tendencies are becoming more and more obvious. Shot two; Ms. Wang’s situation represents a lot of families. For the sake of her daughter’s learning, Ms. Wang is almost considered to leave her family. From the kindergarten special class, to the elementary school of a variety of tutorial classes, Ms. Wang is accompanied by her daughter over the whole process. In order not to let the child distraction, Ms. Wang instead of her daughter to study outside of so the work are done. Daughter is also very competitive, learn what like what, all aspects of the top. This makes Ms. Wang very pleased. After going to college, her daughter couldn’t adapt to school life at all, her relationships were strained and her life was a mess. Ms. Wang went to school to accompany. Seeing that her daughter can never be independent, Ms. Wang is at a loss as to what else she can do to help her daughter. Shot 3; A case reported online. A not-so-wealthy couple, in order to raise their son to be a success, save money and work hard. As long as the child learns well, any request is satisfied. At the age of 15, the child was admitted to university, and then went abroad to study. After returning to China, he got a good job. But less than 2 years of work, because of a small thing that he thought he had been wronged, jumped off a building and committed suicide. There are many other cases like this. Different people have different understanding of success. But there are a few points that should be common. If a person is successful, he should have certain abilities, love life, be optimistic, be able to establish good interpersonal relationships, and be able to face difficulties positively although his emotions may be affected. Many parents focus on the development of their children’s abilities, specifically, the development of their children’s learning ability, ignoring other aspects. Many parents always want their children to take shortcuts, less detours, they are afraid that their children will be aggrieved. They don’t realize that if the roots don’t go deep, the tree won’t grow tall. It is better for us parents to do less of the things that we do to help our children grow. The following are some of our suggestions: First, play and games between children are exercises in building relationships for adulthood. If this part is missing, it will cost more in adulthood. So, this part of the child’s journey must not be bypassed. Second, there is something for children to figure out on their own after a setback. If the child needs, we can provide help to solve the problem with him. Never replace the child to solve the problem, moreover, do not clear all the obstacles in front of the child in advance. Even if it is clear that the child is wrong, let him go through it. It is necessary to suffer a little often. After such a detour, the child will be more confident. Third, as the child grows older, let the child more and more for themselves to pay the responsibility. Parents need to get away from their children and give them back the work that belongs to them, even if it means sacrificing some of their study time. The purpose of this detour is that the child will be able to have more responsibility and be more independent as an adult. Every age has its own tasks, and the growth of a human being needs to be nourished by all kinds of nutrients. We skip this stage or neglect part of the nourishment. Our growth is hindered. This impediment to growth is gradually magnified with age, and it requires us to spend more time and energy to deal with it. So the detours that need to be taken are a must. Because the success we want is going to be sustainable.