Sadness, grief, loss, uncertainty …… These emotions can occur in mentally healthy people, but if they persist or gradually feel like living in perpetual darkness, so much so that they lose faith in life, despair, give up trying or even try to demand relief by committing suicide… …, this is the typical emotional experience of depression. The degree of depression can be mild or severe, but the feelings and behaviors of powerlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, and low self-esteem, self-doubt, and withdrawal are basically the same. Depression is a common psychiatric disorder, it is not a difficult disorder, and there are many treatments available. The prerequisite is that the patient himself and his family or close friends find out in time, give up the shame, and receive regular treatment, then he can get rid of the pain of depression. This article discusses the path to recovery from depression from the perspective of psychoanalysis, or motivational psychotherapy. Psychoanalysis is not only concerned with the experience and symptoms of depression, but also with what is happening in the patient’s life and what makes him/her depressed. There are usually two types of events that can trigger depression, one is “loss”, such as loss of love, death of a loved one, promotion, advancement, leaving a job, and other events that carry the meaning of loss. The other type of event that can easily trigger depression is the so-called “failure”, or things called “not getting”, such as losing an election, failing to make the grade, being criticized, being rejected, and other things that do not go as expected. For example, a boss of a large listed company who worked hard for decades and thought he was doing the right thing, became depressed after his wealth and power were greatly satisfied. The result is a deep sense of guilt and self-blame. Psychoanalysis continues to focus on why some losses or failures in life cause people to become depressed to the point of illness, and the basis of personality that determines how these people will react when faced with such events. Personality is a consistent pattern of relatively stable perceptions and attitudes about oneself, others, and the world, about how to feel, think, and act. The extent of genetic influence on personality cannot be proven by current experimental methods, but there is no doubt that personality traits record the traces experienced in the environment in which an individual grows up, and that personality is gradually formed and developed in the environment in which he or she is raised. This is because the cognition, the construction of the psyche, and the impression of the object and the self are formed gradually through interaction with the outside world. A visitor could not enter into a normal relationship and marriage. He was extremely eager to establish an intimate relationship with the opposite sex, and after trying to date more than a dozen girlfriends, he finally registered his marriage, only to be depressed one month after the marriage, tired and weak, overwhelmed, and feeling that life is meaningless. What was the reason? After the interview, the visitor gradually realized that he was very powerless and lacked self-confidence. Not only did he feel that he could not take care of his future wife and the whole family, but he was also indecisive and evasive in other matters. What kind of upbringing has led to this personality trait? His mother was a smart and hardworking mother who did not allow her children to do any chores; if her children wanted to participate out of curiosity, she would say, “Stop messing around and go study”; when she saw her children carrying school bags, she would immediately take them over, “Don’t get tired”. Even when she went to college, she didn’t let her child live at school, saying, “You don’t know how to do laundry, so I’ll do it for you at home”; sometimes she would say, “If I don’t see you for a day, I’ll miss you to death.” …… A mother, extremely loving and protective of her child, but at the same time controlling and denying, time and again deprived her child of the opportunity to grow up. The anxiety of leaving his mother, who was too close to him, subconsciously prevented this visitor from entering a new relationship. His father was a man of few words and no initiative, and the visitor rarely remembered his father giving him some advice, or encouraging and supporting him. From his father, the visitor was also unable to acquire some masculinity and to be a man on top. At this point, you may find some clues to understand why this visitor’s marriage has gone wrong. Of course, everyone’s upbringing and experiences are different, and they form a variety of personality characteristics, which determines that each person sees the world differently, which means that through in-depth analysis, an individual’s personality can be understood and improved, and his/her world can be changed. Psychoanalysis and motivational psychotherapy can accelerate the process of psychological growth and personality improvement. Psychoanalytic and motivational psychotherapy is a remedy for people who are deeply depressed to get rid of their pain. Through working with the client again and again, the therapist discovers the hidden desires, conflicts and emotions deep in the psyche, understands their repeating relationship patterns, gradually repairs the psychological trauma of early years, softens the inherent maladaptive personality patterns, and thus gains new experiences and changes the view and attitude toward self, others and the world. This leads to new experiences and changes in perceptions and attitudes toward self, others, and the world. Psychoanalysis is like a light in the darkness, accompanying people who are suffering to get out of their difficulties and regain freedom and new life.