Happiness is a byproduct of being happy when we focus on a task that slowly pays off OR when we succeed. It’s hard to be happy for the sake of being happy. Wealthy people are sometimes less happy than poor people. The reason why a certain celebrity commits suicide or a certain person takes drugs is that the fulfillment of materialistic desires can make people spiritually empty. Nowadays, many people will be in a kind of trance state after their desires are realized, and suddenly they feel that everything is meaningless. People are not happy with material enjoyment alone; happiness is a spiritual activity, and it is the spiritual activity that gives us eternal pleasure. When something makes us feel curious, impulsive, adventurous, or even unsatisfied it makes us anxious or tense, and when the anxiety or tension is released we experience joy within! (e.g., bungee jumping) The current culture is unscientific in its preaching of daily happiness. Happiness is an emotion and sustained happiness is impossible because human emotions have ups and downs, everyone has a specific emotional curve, and happy and not so happy always flow like water. Excessive happiness is quickly converted into frustration and dissatisfaction. (Joy begets sorrow.) Culture tells us what makes us happy and what doesn’t make us happy. In fact, people are happy in different ways. Some people like to live by the rules, and the rules make them happy. Some people like to live a life of passion, and the rules make them restless, even depressed, and they need some excitement from time to time to be happy. For different people, both lives can be deadly. It’s not necessarily true that the calm (OR passionate) life is for you, it could be the culture that’s messing with you, find what works for you and find your own happiness. The series Another Way of Looking at the World is not entirely psychological, but is a collection of opinions I have developed myself after studying philosophy, psychology, sociology, culture, etc. Some of these opinions are even very different from psychology. Some of the views are even very different from psychology, so please have more tolerance for psychology friends, non-psychology friends do not as psychology to learn.