A casual search on the Internet can reveal a variety of methods. However, it is not so easy to use these methods in the right way. Here I have some suggestions for your reference: 1. When criticizing a child, distinguish between motive and behavior. Even if the behavior is wrong to the extreme, his motive must be for his own benefit. For example, the child fights with others. The original motive for fighting is mostly to protect himself. If you don’t ask why he did it, your criticism will have little effect. Because the child will feel that you are denying his motives. Think about it, if you have to give people criticism for even protecting themselves, will they accept it? So we should first affirm the motive, then point out the error of the behavior, and if there is time, discuss with the child what can be done to protect him/herself without being criticized. At this point, most children will readily accept it. This way we are in the child’s shoes, rather than looking at him through the eyes of adults. 2. Appreciate your child more. Every thing a child does, as long as it does not harm the interests of others, it is not necessary to distinguish good from bad. The more you appreciate your child, the more you can enhance your child’s self-confidence. There are two or more sides to every matter, and one’s perspective and starting point are different, one will get different interpretations, and one may get different results. If you look at a problem with a positive attitude, you will be happy and joyful. If you look at the problem with a negative attitude, you will only make yourself sullen. 3. Give your child more autonomy. Many parents are worried that their children will do something bad and unmanageable once they relax. People are good by nature. Believe that your child’s nature is good. When a child has more autonomy, he will do things for his own good as much as possible, and he will not hurt others when he can do so. Many parents are worried that their children will do something bad, and once they relax, it will be unmanageable. 4, according to the actual age of the child to treat him. The child’s age, review their own behavior and practices, only according to their own child’s age to treat him, the child can grow and develop normally. 5, for the child and not for themselves. In the event that we feel that we have done a lot for our children, but have not achieved our purpose, we need to reflect on who we are doing things for. Is the things we want to do is done and done, the child wants the child to develop in a healthy direction. Are we doing things that are further from the goal or farther away? Although the earth is round, we don’t want to see things going the other way.