When you experience disappointment, loss of love, failure or loss of a loved one or other events in your life, it may be a normal reaction to feel bitter or depressed, as you may adjust quickly on your own.
If you experience the following symptoms and they persist for more than two months and affect your daily life, work, relationships, etc., then you need to see a doctor to diagnose whether you are suffering from depression
1.Depressed mood: depression, emptiness, negativity, hopelessness, helplessness, irritability, desire to cry, etc.
2, loss of interest: including hobbies and sex
3, there is a problem with sleep: such as insomnia, early awakening or sleeping too much. By early awakening, it means waking up at 2-3 a.m. and then not being able to sleep, with a mind full of negative thoughts and worries.
4. Poor appetite and weight loss. Or a big appetite and weight gain.
5.Fatigue, lethargy.
6.Moving slower than before, or fidgeting instead.
7.Sense of uselessness, worthlessness, strong unnecessary guilt.
8.Inability to concentrate, disorganized thoughts, weakened memory.
9. Thoughts of death, and in severe cases, suicidal tendencies and plans.
10.Do not want to see people, isolate yourself.
11.Severe delusions and hallucinations may occur.
Causes of depression – categorized as loss
1.Concrete loss: such as the loss of relatives, work, money, etc.
2, abstract loss: such as loss of health, hope, self-esteem, self-confidence, power, status, face, partner, love, friendship, financial support, self-control, etc.
3.Threatening loss: such as fear of death, failure in college entrance exams, etc.
How to come out of depression? Generally need to go through several stages.
1.Denial: At the initial stage, the person tends to deny that he or she has depression, refuses to accept help, refuses to see a doctor. They think they can get through it if they are stronger and more positive. (If you refuse to see someone, not only will it not help your condition, but it will aggravate it.)
2.Acknowledge the loss: Able to admit that you are depressed and find out what you have lost and its meaning.
3.Grieve for the loss: may be very sad, angry, think the world is unfair
4.Looking at the loss from a broader perspective: Gradually, the person can broaden his or her vision and look at the loss from a different perspective: “The loss is just a part of my life”, “What I learned from the loss”, “How to live with the loss”. How to live with loss”
5. Adaptation: Begin to accept the fact of loss. Make new adaptations.
6. Invest in a new life: Stop clinging to the past, set new goals, and invest your life in something new and meaningful.