Many families are facing the time when their children enter adolescence, parents are difficult to grasp the relationship with their children, and even distressed by their children’s rebellion and antagonism; for this reason, many of the problems raised by the Internet are related to children in adolescence, so this small article is written specifically for the reference of parents and children in need. The principles of getting along with adolescent children: 1, parents should communicate more with their adolescent children: as long as the child’s ideas, behavior is not illegal, immoral or lead to evil, parents should learn to accept; as long as the child is appropriate, parents should give affirmation and support, really can not say “no”, so as to have good results. Whether dealing with big or small problems, we should have positive thoughts, as long as we see hope, the problem is half solved. 2, humanity and caring attitude: Based on the original humanity and care of each person, the most successful way for parents to get along with their children is to establish a positive relationship with them; adolescents need love and acceptance, a very important skill is: on the one hand, accept the value of the person, and on the other hand, help him to correct his behavior; any attempt to change the child through threats and control is almost futile, but only to see the child The only way to make real change is to see the child as a valuable, independent individual. Learning to control energy is a developmental goal for adolescents, and this energy needs safe, appropriate, and self-fulfilling ways to be expressed. For example, sports, physical activities, and inspiring physical and mental activities are effective and beneficial ways; organized programs and purposeful work are two other methods. Parents are the navigators of their children: Adolescent children begin to have their own ideas and sense of independence, they can easily express their inconsistency with their parents in a relatively extreme way, therefore, it is easy to create conflicts between children and parents, the essence of this conflict is the power and control between parents and children, the best solution is: you win and I win; children must first surpass their parents before they can surpass others. 5, honesty is the best to policy: adolescence is another important thing is to discover what the world is really about. Adults must support this process of discovery, and both sides can take small risks and enjoy the greatest results; instead of limiting adolescents with a host of restrictions and limitations, they should be committed to developing relationships based on honesty, humor and realistic guidelines, and to gain the trust of their children. In short, adolescent children desperately want to achieve is independence, autonomy, and self-identity, and they go through many false starts, futile processes, and hormonal storms that are natural processes of personality development. If a person enters adulthood with a strong sense of self-esteem, the ability to build close relationships, the ability to communicate consistently, take responsibility, and be willing to take risks, then the purpose of his adolescence has been achieved. Adolescent rebellion is a sign of a child’s growth and a necessary stage in the process of growing up.