At present, many hospital psychiatrists are part-time or transferred to psychiatric departments, unknowingly, always look at psychological disorders with a psychiatric point of view, often moving to prescribe patients to eat drugs, the weekly cost of two or three hundred, and very little psychological counselling. No wonder, now the hospital’s psychology department patients, less than a dozen people a day, more than 30 or 40 people, if each person is given 1 hour of psychological counseling, see also see not finished ……
I believe that the real psychological disorder is no need to use drugs, for three reasons.
1, psychological disorders are temporarily unable to face the pressure caused by the mind, belonging to the mind regulating dysfunction, heart disease or rely on psychological counseling to regulate;
2, take drugs may let the symptoms quickly get under control, but after stopping the drug, is not the mind to regulate the drug-induced dependence?
3, the patient treats the psychological disorder as a physical disease, always feel that the doctor does not give medicine is not normal, which also misleads the doctor from the opposite side, so, look at the psychological disorder, the doctor prescribes the patient to take medicine is logical to become Zhou Yu fight yellow cover. Psychological counseling is a good way to relieve psychological stress and improve mental capacity, almost everyone needs psychological counseling in their lives, but the reality is that there are many users of psychological counseling there are some misconceptions.
Myth 1: Counseling is chatting
Psychological counseling is different from the general sense of chatting, although the main way of psychological counseling is to talk, but psychological counseling using the professional theoretical knowledge of psychology, and sociology, medicine and other aspects of knowledge, there is a strict scientific theoretical system and operating procedures, so as to achieve the purpose of solving psychological problems, helping people to lift the psychological crisis and promote the development of personality. This is completely different from friends chat, family and friends of persuasion and comfort, teachers of education, leadership of ideological and political work.
Misconception 2: Anyone can be a counselor
As no one can just drive a car, counselors should undergo rigorous training and assessment, and obtain a license from the management before taking up the job. According to the requirements of developed countries, a qualified wholly-owned counselor should basically have a doctorate in psychology and medicine, undergo rigorous internship training, have some practical experience, pass a certification qualification examination, and be able to practice alone under the guidance of a superior supervising teacher. For well-known reasons, China has not yet reached the requirements of developed countries, and the gap is very large. We can only lower the standard to enable some talents who love psychological counseling and basically have the quality of psychological counseling, and gradually cultivate senior professionals in psychological counseling to strive for early convergence with international standards.
Myth 3: I have good psychological quality, I don’t need psychological counseling
Psychological counseling is not only to solve your psychological crisis and a large number of psychological problems. No matter how strong, smart, decent, passionate and knowledgeable you are, you cannot know yourself very well and you need to know yourself from other people. You can’t reflect on yourself every moment, nor can you always look at yourself from an outsider’s standpoint. Learning about yourself from others may give you false indications. Counseling is a more standard mirror that allows you to understand yourself correctly from all angles without distortion. A correct understanding of oneself can build on one’s strengths and avoid one’s weaknesses to promote development and success in life.
Myth 4: Counselors can read my mind and know my past and future
Some people make the mistake of simplifying psychological counseling, while others make the mistake of overcomplicating and mystifying it. Some people equate psychology with mystical doctrines, such as fortune tellers, divination, supernatural powers, etc. There are now electronic computers on the market that are used to cheat people under the guise of psychological tests, and some people deliberately ask psychologists to guess their own psychological activities and use them to measure the level of psychologists, etc. There is nothing special about psychologists other than the fact that their expertise in psychology is different from the general population. Psychologists have good trained observation skills, know the scientific laws of mental activity and have a very objective logical analysis ability to determine certain subconscious mental activities, but all this must come from real, objective and comprehensive information. Psychologists themselves cannot, and cannot with the help of high-tech instruments, learn about specific ideas. The most advanced polygraphs cannot measure specific details of thinking, and people’s knowledge of the brain lags far behind that of the most sophisticated electronic computers, and the psychological world is not as complex as modern people imagine. You must have a scientific mind when dealing with psychological counseling.
Myth 5: It’s a shame to go for counseling
Due to historical reasons and many objective factors, people do not know much about their own psychological world, and many people still cannot distinguish between “neurological” and “mental”, “spiritual” and “psychological” and “psychological”. Many people do not know the difference between “neurological” and “mental”, “mental” and “psychological”, and “mind”. Fear and suspicion of psychological counseling may stem from ignorance of “mental illness” and fear of being treated as “mentally abnormal” and psychological problems as “psychopathic” and “thought problems. “thought problems”. Sometimes minor psychological problems may not be solved scientifically, resulting in the final development of heavy mental illness. It is sad that psychological problems are allowed to develop by “covering” and “hiding” them. Psychological counseling is one of the best ways to promote human growth and development, an effective way to prevent psychological disorders, and a sure way to improve the quality of life and achieve success in life. The most basic principles of counseling include “absolute confidentiality”, where you can open up your inner world to the psychologist and he or she will take good care of it. Counseling will enable you to move away from ignorance and superstition, accept reality and challenge yourself. People who think that “it’s a shame to see a psychologist” are weak and afraid to accept themselves and reality, and their psychology is not very healthy. Modern progressive-minded people have walked into the counseling room without fear and with confidence towards a successful future.
Myth 6: Psychological counseling should not charge or charge less
Psychological counseling is something that helps people, it’s about helping people to relieve their spiritual pain, it’s about doing good deeds, and it doesn’t cost much, so many people think it should be free of charge. Although modern people know in theory that time and knowledge are valuable, because these are intangible things and because of the influence of traditional thinking deep inside, many people need counseling but are unwilling to pay for it. While psychological counseling is a very expensive expense abroad, the fees in China are so low that many psychologists cannot make a living out of it, which has become one of the reasons affecting the development of mental health in China.
Myth 7: Psychological counseling should solve the problem at once
Many first-time psychological counseling people have the illusion that psychologists can sweep away their long-term depression and pain, clear the fog of the mind, away from worry and confusion, see the true blue sky, and return my relaxed mood and uplifting spirit. However, psychologists are not fairies, and there is no kung fu beyond normal people. “The bell must be tied”, psychological counseling is to help people solve their own problems, psychologists can not solve the problem, but only to provide some correct understanding of themselves, analysis of problems, problem solving specific methods, must have the helper himself many times It is necessary to have the helper practice many times before the problem can be solved. Unless the psychological problem is very simple, a single counseling session can achieve the desired effect. Many problems are “frozen in three feet, not in one day” and have personality problems. Some real problems may also involve various aspects, and counseling cannot be solved at once. Counseling is about helping the person to understand himself or herself and accept the reality so that he or she can transcend it. Therefore, counseling requires a process of understanding, a procedure of discussion, analysis, operation, feedback, revision, and re-practice, and it is generally impossible to solve problems at once. And there is a time limit for each counseling session. In the past, counseling took a long time (months to years) to solve the problem, but now, due to the improvement of theory and technology, the process has been greatly shortened, but it is never possible to solve the problem all at once.
Counseling in China is still relatively new, both those who are engaged in this business and the general public who need counseling need to have a fairly long process of understanding and acceptance. It is undeniable that there is a vast market for psychological counseling and a bright future for its development. There is no doubt that a healthy mind is very important for individuals, a nation and a country. In recent times, I am very happy to see that a lot of psychotherapy has been conducted online and offline and has helped many people.
While I am happy, there is still a lot of helplessness …… about psychotherapy, about the Chinese mainstream culture, there are indeed many strange phenomena, here shallowly say a couple of.
A. Seeing a psychiatrist is mental illness?
Many people equate seeing a psychiatrist with having a mental illness, so in China, there are many people who are reluctant to see a psychiatrist. There is such a county-level cadres, the whole body inexplicable pain for nearly 10 years, to the major hospitals to check all the problems, the cadres take medicine every day, but also blame the lover, that is caused by the lover’s bad …… such disorder in psychology called: conversion pain disorder, from his inability to relieve the pressure of life conversion. Friends advised him to see a psychiatrist, the cadres are determined not to go, think they have a set of theories, and then see a psychiatrist that is a psychiatric ah, the results of the final divorce and his lover, the family broke up, the pain has not improved …… I would like to help him, but he refused me a thousand miles away, so I had to give up. Poor his lover, 20 years of hard work to support the family, to middle age but for no reason to accept the pain of divorce.
Second, the more expensive the fee, the more brilliant the doctor?
I remember a friend in the clothing business told me something, he had a piece of merchandise priced at 50 yuan, has not been sold, see soon to change the season, the friend was anxious, simply bid 500 yuan, the results of the day to 400 yuan sold at a good price. Dang, the Chinese don’t buy the right one, they only buy the expensive one! In psychotherapy, many people also have this idea, the more expensive the fee, the doctor must be highly skilled.
Third, the more famous, the better the psychiatrist? The older the psychiatrist, the more experienced he or she is?
Here, the text of Li Zixun, a psychologist from China-Japan Friendship Hospital, is quoted as an illustration.
The following aspects are the least reliable.
1, title: such as professor or chief physician, even the title of doctor does not represent anything, this is to show that they have made in some academic knowledge, but does not mean that he made psychological professional is in the line.
2, the leader of the psychological association: such as the president of the association, the director, national members, etc., busy with business work, it is impossible to quietly do cases.
3, expensive people: expensive people do not mean that his level is high, self-righteous people always think that others should be his, overestimating themselves.
4.Overseas gold-plated people: It is good to have the background of overseas study, but we should be clear about what study and what gold-plated. Some people come back to China, thinking that the domestic are country bumpkins, with them how to manipulate. I met a few people who think they are very bull, sincerely hope that she came to do a case supervision or lecture, only to find that it is a bull’s head is not a horse’s mouth.
5, people who publish books: do not think that people who can write books on the level of counseling is high, ten Chinese doctors write things, nine books can not read, so that good people will also see full of problems.
6.Older people: Counseling is a very challenging job, requiring counselors must be full of spirit, energy, must be open-minded, flexible, ahead of the curve, and have multicultural values. And it is hard for older people not to be rigid in their thinking, to think they take it with a grain of salt, and to refrain from educating people. It’s also hard to be empathetic.