Influenced by various media propaganda and the deep-rooted Chinese mindset, few people are willing to see a counselor or psychotherapist, and everyone is imagining the effects of counseling, often with overly high expectations for the effects of counseling. First of all, it is important to understand the characteristics of psychological counseling in order to understand psychological counseling correctly. 1, counseling can not change the reality, but only change your perspective, life can not be only happy, no pain, counseling is certainly not a quick-acting painkillers. To people “Why did he abandon me?” “Why did my boss fire me?” “Why is money so hard to earn?” Counseling can’t really help with such real-life dilemmas. If you complain to the counselor, the only thing the counselor can do is to encourage you to accept. Throughout the process of counseling, the counselor is always listening to your story, at the same time, he is also watching with his eyes, observing your expressions, emotions, unconscious movements, analyzing how you are telling the story, which elements of the story are your interpretation and which are your fugue. It is always stimulating you to reflect on yourself and make you see yourself in your problems. 2, can not or very difficult to see immediate results, counseling is not like internal medicine to see the flu, a dose down the medicine to get rid of the disease. The most concise short course of treatment takes 8 to 10 times, 30 to 45 minutes each time. 3, a counselor, can not be suitable for all visitors, a counselor has said: “I am most suitable for those who have the same psychological problems with me.” Just like two objects, the closer the vibration frequency is, the easier it is to resonate. Each counselor has his or her most suitable visitors, and the ideal counseling is like a relationship, where both parties have to find the feeling and interact on the same channel for the impact to really happen. If a counselor is perfect for you, it’s a chance; if he doesn’t accept you or you don’t accept him, it’s not necessarily anyone’s fault, maybe it’s just that the channels are different. So, you are choosing a counselor and the counselor is choosing the visitor. Of course, the more mature and experienced a counselor is, the wider the range of fit will be. 4. It is likely that you will not always feel satisfied. Many people have a misunderstanding about counseling, thinking that there is a mysterious power that can make you well and me well and everyone well. In fact, there are times when counseling is also painful, counselors will not always make you feel happy, and experiencing pain has an important meaning in counseling because the crux is often there. For this reason, many visitors have developed opinions about the counselor during counseling, such as believing that the counselor does not care enough about him or feeling angry about certain words or actions of the doctor, but are afraid to expose them for fear of offending the counselor. In this way, the interaction is hindered leading to a significant reduction in the effectiveness of the treatment. In fact, it is important to let the counselor know these feelings at all times so that the relationship can be adjusted in time. 5, the visitor is the subject of treatment, the counselor is only a tool, Freud said: “Psychoanalysis can only cure people with psychoanalytic minds.” In other words, the visitor is the main subject of treatment, and the counselor is only a tool, he is passive and subordinate. Once a therapeutic relationship is formed, the visitor must be committed, only by actively admitting your confusion and problems and accepting his help, you have to have a psychological mind and make an effort to be aware and analyze yourself in every moment of your life, looking for a different way of dealing with problems and accepting a different perspective, instead of just waiting for the counselor to do something, because if you are not committed, the counselor will have to wait. When you face the counselor, you have to tell him the different inner experience and effect of the same scenario under the new method and perspective, so that you can form a good interaction with the counselor. 6. Patients with all types of neurosis are able to receive beneficial help from psychotherapy. The prerequisite for getting beneficial help from psychotherapy is that you choose a formally trained psychological counselor – psychologist or psychiatrist, not a so-called “expert” who comes from halfway around the world and wavers around under the banner of psychological counseling with his or her limited experience. There is no difference in the overall efficacy of various psychotherapies, psychoanalysis, behavior therapy, cognitive therapy, person-centered therapy and other psychotherapies. However, behavioral therapy seems to be better for panic attacks, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and some other more difficult-to-treat problems. So, what exactly can counseling do? 1. Stimulate and maintain your expectation of getting help and give you hope for a cure This can help you feel more confident and better cooperate with the counselor in your treatment. 2.Relieve the visitor’s clinical symptoms, for example, can make you wash your hands significantly less often, depressed mood become happy …… 3.Diversion of your negative emotions let you more calm, more relaxed to meet life. 4.Provide new coping strategies or experiences and their ways of dealing with the problems you will face. For example, teach you some methods of clearing tension or certain social skills, discover other new perspectives on yourself or problems, and actively cope and deal with stressful events in daily life. 5. Increase your sense of control over your problems and your confidence in healing. With some effort and action, you can take control of the situation and you can quickly get out of your current psychological rut. 6.Let you apply your counseling insights in your real life and consolidate the counseling effect. In fact, the key to the success of counseling is the preparation of the counselor himself, the motivation of inner growth, and the degree of real commitment in counseling, we all know the truth that the water rises and the boat rises. I hope that all of you who have read this journal will share your own treatment methods and insights. We hope that more patients who are suffering can find a psychological treatment that suits them, so that they can take less detours and improve their prognosis. Everyone is healthy, so we are all happy!